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Old 06-14-2012, 06:17 PM
goodnightmoon goodnightmoon is offline
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Default Greetings! I'm new and could use some advice :)

Now to start out, I apologize if anything is misspelled or grammatically incorrect because I'm typing on an iPad.

Im not really sure where to start.
My name is E and I'm from the D.C. area.

At the beginning of this year, a lot in my life changed.
I got engaged! And a few days after that, my fiancÚ, C, brought the idea of an "open marriage" to my attention. I was shocked, hurt, I didn't understand why he would want this, or why he would bring this up so shortly after we got engaged. I went from the excitement of being engaged to misery in such a short period of time.

We had long talks, for days, and I eventually chose to look into it. I read multiple books, including: "Open" as well as "The Ethical Slut"(my favorite) and talked to people, talked to C, read your wonderful forums, and really took sometime to myself to decide the benefits of this lifestyle. I had a lot of self conflicts, but I began to really see a positive behind everything. My main issue I was dealing with was my jealousy.

Through all of this, C eventually met a woman while traveling the country for work. He was gone for a month and a half, so I had to figure out what being open meant to me, all the while him being thousands of miles away and our only communication being through email.

This woman, we'll call her G, met C through work and they formed a strong connection. He didn't mention much about her, but said that she was someone he definitely wanted to have in his life. Then one day, a few days before he was set to come back, he told me that he wanted to meet up with her(she lives out of state) and he would've been traveling through, and go spend an evening with her because she had wanted to discuss what would come of them when he came back home. She knew about me at the time and determined that there would be no future with him because of the situation and she wanted to say goodbye, in person. He asked me how I felt about that and told me that if I wasn't okay with it, he wouldn't meet up with her. I decided to step out of my comfort zone and take the first risk of our relationship and said, "why not?". They slept together that night. He returned home a couple days later and told me all about it, as well as all about her. I told him that if he was going to continue a relationship with this girl, I may as well know what she's about.

C and I talked endlessly on it, I asked him how he felt about her and what that meant for us. He said that she was a friend, and that he wasn't sure if it would progress or not. A few days later, she wanted to contact me. I emailed her and from there, she gave me her number to text message her. We spoke for a few days and I got to know her, and she really was just as incredible as he made her sound. We both talked about being friends and how it would make things so much easier on all three of us.

Then about a week ago, she stopped speaking with me. Around that same time, C mentioned that G had been talking to him privately about how she felt that she needed someone who could give her themselves fully, but she didn't want to let him go. I told him that I think her attitude is counter-productive to our cause. If she is looking for something exclusive then she has come to the wrong place. This has also made me feel that she may have only been conversing with me to ease C's mind.

I don't really know how to respond to any of this. I'm sure there is so much information I have left out.
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