Husband has certain expectations

[dragonflysky]

Just a thought........It sounds like your husband has some attributes of sexual "addiction"...where he HAS to have a FIX regardless of the consequences for anyone else.

(From: http://allpsych.com/journal/sexaddiction.htm) Sexual addicts are those who engage in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasingly negative consequences to self and to others. They become addicted to the neuro-chemical changes that take place in the body during sexual behavior.

You might want to do some internet research to see if the attributes listed for sexual addiction seem relevant to your husband. You might also find it helpful to do a search on "ADHD and sexual addiction". There seems to be quite a high correlation.

[PinkDragon]

So, I've been reading what you've been writing. I gotta tell ya... he'd be drawing back a bloody nub.

I agree with looking at information about sex addicts because I think the guy has a pretty serious problem going on.

[dragonflysky]

Oops! Sorry Chaos. You mentioned in your first sentence that you wondered if your husband might have a sex addiction! Guess I wasn't reading carefully enough the first time through. But yes....I think you may be on to something.

[LotusesandRoses]

I'm a very sexual person, but I don't constantly molest people. High testosterone might affect acne and aggression, but it wouldn't make you grope people more when others say, "Cut the crap."

It does sound like your husband may be a sex addict, however, and is just crazily seeking a pleasurable rush. It also sounds like he may have problems with emotional intimacy. Sexual intimacy can sometimes become a barrier instead of a tool to emotional intimacy, especially in addicts. While I can't diagnose your husband (I lack both the credentials and this is the internet), you should definitely seek counsel from a doctor or psychologist.

[laughingowl]

Chaos:

One suggestion, how well do you know your husband...

Would he be open to YOU playing matchmaker.....

In some places cultures it was not even uncommon for the wife to find/manage mistresses.

If you can honestly pick women he might like, but also aren't too crazy, perhaps this would be a situation that might work.

Heck there is a chance he might be LIKE the fact of you looking for him.

That being said I would also agree with those that point out there flags in our description of your husband and some self research and or professional advice may also be worthwhile.