Is this a reason to try polyamory?

[whatifwetried]

Hello,

I am new to this forum and to concept of polyamory.

I have been in several mono relationships, and am currently in one with a guy who is very different from myself, almost polar opposites. Due to differing perspectives and values and personal processes, I often find my emotional needs unmet.

I'm wondering if this is a reason to consider going poly? I love him and want to be with him, but want to experience certain ways of expressing and receiving love that just aren't his style, and I dont want to force anything onto him or put on unfair expectations

What are your thoughts on this?

Thanks!

[MindfulAgony]

It as good a reason as any to try poly. But, I would suggest making sure it is something that fits you in a deeper way. If you see yourself loving more than one, how do you feel about partner's loving more than you? Polyamory can be difficult for some because it can require a high emotional resources, a great degree of flexibility and the willingness to deal with things you find uncomfortable to a much greater degree than monogamy usually does.

Keep exploring and figure out if it fits for you.

After that, you'll need to figure out how to introduce it to your partner. It would be good to know whether or not you think it's a deal breaker for you or not. If he's not willing to walk this path with you, will you stay monogamous with him? How strong is the pull for others? etc.