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Old 02-05-2011, 03:42 AM
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My primary love language used to be "gifts". But for me, a "gift" could be a pretty stone or an autumn leaf that my love saw that made him think of me. I actually didn't want him buying me gifts so much as just some little thing that reminded me I was in his thoughts throughout the day.

Creating your own gift certificates could be for a "service", but would offer something concrete (the certificate) at the same time.
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Old 02-05-2011, 04:16 AM
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I'm loving these ideas!

I'm watching the kiddos while Sunday and Asha go out tonight, so I'm in good, hee hee hee. See that bus I just threw Easy under? Poor guy. LOL.

No, really, I'm writing everything down and keeping it for a time of need, and I've made the ideas available to Easy as well. I'm not really mean wife. Really!
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Old 02-05-2011, 08:35 AM
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My guy has interest in historical events/places/cultures, etc., that are rather obscure and difficult to find information on. He HATES doing internet searches. I rather enjoy it. I will sometimes do an internet search for him and print copies of the articles I find to give to him to read. He LOVES it.
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Old 02-05-2011, 04:24 PM
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Old 02-05-2011, 07:37 PM
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I went to a birthday party last weekend and had nothing to give the hostess. Her birthday had actually passed a week before and she was not expecting gifts... but I brought her something anyway. I brought her a bowl I made out of paper... origami. I got the instructions off the internet and me an LB made them. He is big into origami lately. It's easy, fun and you can make elaborate things that look amazing. The bowl is a good idea because you can fill it over time, or right away. You can decorate it and draw things on it too.

I like to give picture frames also... I don't give the picture quite often though. It depends on the person. I like to give a picture every now and then to someone I have given a frame too. I give one the same size so that it can be put in over the last one... A picture can be printed for under a dollar if you bring your digital camera in somewhere. Provided you have one... I figure that is a gift that keeps giving...

Derby gave me a little book once that she wrote in a bit, with the promise to write more... I really liked that.

You could make a book, a frame, a bowl.... all are gifts that I love and they have the potential to keep on giving.

Oh ya, another. I have a jar that I pasted tissue paper on so that the light shines through and makes colourful light. I put in it little sayings I like, little reminders. Little affirmations..."I am loved" "I am okay as I am" these kinds of things. I have angel cards in there and some little things I like to look at that are precious (feathers, rocks, shells, sticks, pine cones, fabric). I take something out every day and put it beside the jar so I can contemplate it. I LOVE my jar... maybe this is something she will like? You could start her off with her own jar?
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Old 02-07-2011, 04:38 AM
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I love the origami idea! She loves to have a seasonal centerpiece on her table, and we could certainly achieve something cool with origami.

I love these ideas. And not just for Asha...it's so nice to have ideas to do for friends that are feeling down, that won't stress my miniscule budget...

PS--I think things went well this weekend, though they started off stressful. I did manage to get in one or two gifts/acts of service.
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Old 09-20-2011, 12:56 PM
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Why don't you just use a flower delivery service and send her a big bouquet of flowers with a small card. I think this is the best way to say we love you and think of you. I think flowers are so expressive and you can choose a bouquet which is not too expensive so that you can afford it.

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Old 05-26-2012, 05:59 AM
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Default The love language of gifts

The love language that I most associate with is that of gifts and I feel this love language gets a bad rap. My feelings on this have nothing to do with materialism or possessions but of the thought that goes into the gift. I get just as (if not more) excited about giving a gift as receiving. Does anyone here associate themselves with this and what are your thoughts?
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Old 05-26-2012, 06:29 AM
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Gifts was my husbands second highest, I believe, and he describes it much like you do - it's not the value/quantity of gifts as much as the quality. Meaning, on his birthday I can buy him a gift, cook him a fabulous dinner, set aside an entire day all about him, and tell him repeatedly how awesome he is and the thing that will make the biggest impression is the fact that I found the perfect gift, no matter the amount of time, effort, or money it took the fact that it reflects him, me, and our relationship is what he appreciates. For example, he was a big comic book reader as a kid and always missed that. This past Christmas I bought him quite a few graphic novels from a local used book store. It cost me next to nothing, took near to no effort (I frequented the shop anyway), but it was perfect. He got to feel like he was indulging his inner child by returning to a media form he loves, and it was something we could connect over because I chose plots more formatted for adults.

I love giving gifts, but I would much rather go do something special than to receive a gift in return. While this is kind of gift-y since it I appreciate things we don't do often/cost more than we're usually willing to spend a lot more than I appreciate every weekend activities, it is still more of a quality time thing than a gift/monetary thing.
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Old 05-26-2012, 07:18 AM
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It's actually my husband's top love language, and it's my least important one - there's actually only a few people I can receive a gift from without getting really uncomfortable. It's caused problems for us - as in budget and clutter. Receiving stuff I don't need or want can be frustrating. I work hard to keep clutter under control and the last thing I want is another "cute" gift I have to display and dust.

I've finally got him to make an agreement with me that when he goes on a work trip or something, he can bring me back one item under a certain price. He used to bring back half a dozen things that caught his eye. When he sticks to our one item agreement I'll smile and tell him how much I love him, even if I hate the item, because I know it's important to him, and I'm proud when he can curb his tendencies. I try to keep my feelings to myself when he wants to buy a more expensive items for friends or family for a gift, as I know it's how he shows love, but his family seems to be topping each other budget wise every year, and that's a strain too. Obviously poly = more presents to buy .

I wish it wasn't his main love language because it's difficult to find gifts for him, he has all the games, toys, books and geek related things he could want, and I know he likes gifts. Nevertheless, I never thought that was a bad love language, at least as long as it's somewhat about both giving and receiving, it just doesn't come naturally to me because I don't want it for myself.
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