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Old 11-29-2009, 08:03 PM
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More ignorance blustering forth from my keyboard...

I have a poly friend who told me a few days back that I am "the mythical unicorn that everyone is looking for".

Eh... 0_0 What? What does that mean? *Checks mirror* I promise. I have NO horn growing out of my forehead. Really... Truly... 0_0

LOL. Can someone help me out with the definitions here? Is there any other 'terminology' unique to polyamory that I should be aware of so I don't sound like an idiot by accident? lol
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Old 11-29-2009, 08:12 PM
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A "Unicorn" in this context is when a couple seeks a single, bisexual woman for the purpose of forming a closed triad.

It's what you were to "Becky and Bill".

See Also:

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showp...7&postcount=10

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/searc...searchid=24204

http://tacit.livejournal.com/295369.html
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Old 11-29-2009, 08:48 PM
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Yikes. 0_0 That sounds like it could be bad for the unicorn in almost everycase.

Though I understand the idea... It is certainly appealing to find someone who is unattached and can join your 'family' without bringing in extranious, unwanted persons.
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Old 11-29-2009, 09:08 PM
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More ignorance blustering forth from my keyboard...

I have a poly friend who told me a few days back that I am "the mythical unicorn that everyone is looking for".

Eh... 0_0 What? What does that mean? *Checks mirror* I promise. I have NO horn growing out of my forehead. Really... Truly... 0_0
Well, if you're a hot bi babe sitting around waiting for a couple to get involved with--and you only want to be involved with a couple and not have any other relationships--then you are, indeed, a unicorn.

If you're not looking to get involved with just a couple, then you're a hot bi babe lacking in all mystical, magical powers.
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Old 11-29-2009, 09:09 PM
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Yikes. 0_0 That sounds like it could be bad for the unicorn in almost everycase.
Although I have never been in a "unicorn situation", I have been on this forum long enough to be able to say, without reservation, that your point of view is ironically refreshing.
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Old 11-29-2009, 09:19 PM
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Oh dear! LOL

Well, I have been thinking of making a post saying what I am and what I'm seeking...

But suffice it for now to say that I'm a hot bi woman looking for a couple/family that I can have sexual and emotional imtimacy with. So... I guess I am a unicorn. LOL

And Ygirl, why is my point of veiw refreshing? LOL. I think it's simply naive. 0_0
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Old 11-29-2009, 09:38 PM
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And Ygirl, why is my point of veiw refreshing? LOL. I think it's simply naive. 0_0

I guess it's because we see a lot of "unicorn hunters" come on to this forum but you're the first unicorn wanna-be (I don't mean that in a derogatory way). Yet, you also seem realistic in your attitude (according to what you just said to me in the PM).
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Old 11-30-2009, 12:22 AM
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Keep in mind that most unicorn hunters have some unrealistic expectations and you'll be fine. Not all of them do, certainly, though enough do that it can serve as a red flag for potential troubles.
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Old 11-30-2009, 03:17 AM
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LOL! What's a bit funny and somewhat ironic is that I have always associated the unicorn with its horn and deamed it a phallic symbol. Never dreamed it would apply to females in any way.

Yes, I found out first hand how strange the expectations of unicorn hunters can be.

One thing I'm primarily looking to avoid is a woman who is bisexual only when it gets her husband's interest perked. (ahem ahem.) I am NOT going to be ANYONE'S viagra substitue. 0_0

LOL

Thank you for the advice and the clairification though!
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There has been a push to get hot bi guys labeled as unicorns. But I don't know how successful that has been.
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