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Old 05-23-2012, 08:36 PM
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Aww, thanks for all the support everybody.

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Wow, you're insane! Not that I never go a week without, but if I have something hot to look forward to, which I spend a lot of time thinking about, it is more difficult.
I'm certainly not saying it'll be easy, but I'm gonna try!

Is it unusual, as a woman, to have markedly stronger and easier orgasms when I haven't cum in the last few days? That has always been the case for me, my orgasmic ability is like a battery that needs to recharge.
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Old 05-23-2012, 08:47 PM
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Is it unusual, as a woman, to have markedly stronger and easier orgasms when I haven't cum in the last few days? That has always been the case for me, my orgasmic ability is like a battery that needs to recharge.
I don't know. For me, it fluctuates unpredictably. Sometimes going a while without cumming makes it harder for me to get there the next time because I'm so sensitive and can only go to the edge. But then sometimes, it's completely different and having some time in between does increase intensity.

This topic reminds me of a tip I read online somewhere about preparing for a date. It stated that if a woman wants a guy to be really attracted and aroused, she should get herself off and have an orgasm just before her date. Apparently, that stimulates something in a guy's brain and makes us hard to resist - hahaha!
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Old 05-23-2012, 09:02 PM
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This topic reminds me of a tip I read online somewhere about preparing for a date. It stated that if a woman wants a guy to be really attracted and aroused, she should get herself off and have an orgasm just before her date. Apparently, that stimulates something in a guy's brain and makes us hard to resist - hahaha!
*Makes note to try this next time around*

If guys rub one out before a date, does this hold true for women?

One wonders...
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Old 05-23-2012, 09:19 PM
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If guys rub one out before a date, does this hold true for women?

One wonders...
Hmm, my guess would be no, it does not. Not sure why I think that.

*giggles* Opalescent, the phrase "rub one out" cracks me up. I'd never heard it before I saw the movie Up in the Air with my husband. There's that scene where George Clooney's co-star is in bed with him and she says he could rub one out when they're apart or something (don't remember exact line). I leaned over to my hubs: "What did she say? He should what? What does that mean?" and he was just shushing me.

I'm never up on lingo. He used to have to translate all the street talk for me whenever we watched NYPD Blue. I always wondered, he never talks that way with me, how does he know all the slang? heh-heh
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Old 05-23-2012, 09:31 PM
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This topic reminds me of a tip I read online somewhere about preparing for a date. It stated that if a woman wants a guy to be really attracted and aroused, she should get herself off and have an orgasm just before her date. Apparently, that stimulates something in a guy's brain and makes us hard to resist - hahaha!
That is interesting because Runic Wolf speculated that the reason why the guy I was working with on Friday hit on me was because Wendigo and I had just had sex earlier that morning.
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Old 05-23-2012, 09:37 PM
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Luckily, I think explicitly making a date for sex means that I don't have to worry about luring them in with pheromones or subliminal sex cues (flushed face? relaxed posture?) or whatever it is that would make this an effective technique for seduction.
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This topic reminds me of a tip I read online somewhere about preparing for a date. It stated that if a woman wants a guy to be really attracted and aroused, she should get herself off and have an orgasm just before her date. Apparently, that stimulates something in a guy's brain and makes us hard to resist - hahaha!
That is interesting because Runic Wolf speculated that the reason why the guy I was working with on Friday hit on me was because Wendigo and I had just had sex earlier that morning.
I think this sort of thing is discussed in Sex at Dawn, too.

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Luckily, I think explicitly making a date for sex means that I don't have to worry about luring them in with pheromones or subliminal sex cues (flushed face? relaxed posture?) or whatever it is that would make this an effective technique for seduction.
True! It's just that the talk of abstaining from having an orgasm until your date reminded me of what I'd read, not that I think you need it, LOL.
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Old 05-26-2012, 08:52 PM
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I just saw The Avengers movie for the second time last night. So good!! Then I happened to stumble upon the most adorable possible fanart of Bruce Banner lying sleepless and worried-looking in bed between Tony Stark and Pepper Potts, both of whom are asleep and contented-looking.

If you haven't seen the movie and you plan to, spoiler alert ahoy!! You might not wanna check this out. For the rest of you, if you're curious, I posted the pic along with a little essay about why I think they would totally canonically end up in a threesome on my tumblr:

http://plum

Splitting up the url due to silly paranoia about internet searches and not wanting this blog to link to any of my other online presences.

bat.tumblr.com/post/23816261883/

Let's split it one more time, just cuz.

spoiler-warning-for-the-new-avengers-movie-so

Aside from thinking it's adorable and makes a lot of sense, I really feel for Bruce in this pic. I always used to have an annoying time trying to fall asleep between Gia and Eric. The middle of the bed is awesome in terms of feeling warm and safe, but it sucks if you're used to doing a lot of twisting and turning as you settle down to sleep. You can move around a little, but unless you want to be constantly jostling *both* of your bed partners, you end up trying to stay more still than normal. I used to think that if I slept with them more I would get more comfortable and not worry about disturbing them, but as it was there were several nights on which I ended up doing just what Bruce is doing in that pic after the two of them had fallen asleep. I really hope they get a king sized bed at some point.
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Old 05-26-2012, 09:58 PM
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Aside from thinking it's adorable and makes a lot of sense, I really feel for Bruce in this pic. I always used to have an annoying time trying to fall asleep between Gia and Eric. The middle of the bed is awesome in terms of feeling warm and safe, but it sucks if you're used to doing a lot of twisting and turning as you settle down to sleep. You can move around a little, but unless you want to be constantly jostling *both* of your bed partners, you end up trying to stay more still than normal. I used to think that if I slept with them more I would get more comfortable and not worry about disturbing them, but as it was there were several nights on which I ended up doing just what Bruce is doing in that pic after the two of them had fallen asleep. I really hope they get a king sized bed at some point.
Are either of them cuddlers when they sleep?? If so, a king sized bed won't do a lick of good! lol I've slept 3 in a California King a few times as a teenager and I was always in the middle (silly boys thinking they can't sleep next to each other - homophobia ran rampant in my high school). One side was fine, because the guy slept off on his own but the other side! I couldn't escape him! He was a cuddler so every time I could maneuver into a comfy position, he'd manage to roll over to be closer and ruin it.

I also don't like to cuddle when sleeping unless I'm cold, so that could be the main problem.

But I digress... I love the idea of the Avengers threesome! I plan to see the movie again myself this weekend (hopefully!).
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Old 05-27-2012, 02:41 AM
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Interesting tumblr post re: Avengers. Haven't seen the movie, and am a bit dim... I'm guessing this (the threesome) isn't what happens in the film? It's funny how many movie narratives (or, really, actual scenarios in other people's lives) that seem appropriate for at least considering non-monogamy as a way forward.

Yeah, three in the bed often makes you want a bigger bed. My recent experience with this was being on the end, with Carob pimpin it in the middle and Ella on the other side. I had to turn each time C turned... I kind of assumed it was Ella starting the spoonturn but it easily coulda been Carob come to think of it. I reckon we weren't even in a queen bed, maybe just a double. Me against the wall. Cosy
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