Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > Life stories and blogs

Notices

 
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Prev Previous Post   Next Post Next
  #11  
Old 05-22-2012, 08:18 PM
AnnabelMore's Avatar
AnnabelMore AnnabelMore is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 2,250
Default

Gia and I have been in a good groove recently of hanging out regularly and talking online. Everything feels very warm, comfortable, with an undercurrent of excitement from knowing that there are things between us (sexuality in general, the things that came up at the femdom class in particular) waiting for a chance to be expressed.

Last week I brought Bee home with me for an evening so G & E could have an at-home date. This weekend I spent an afternoon at their place and helped them work on a few little projects. Tonight I'm going over there so Gia can help me work on a costume I'm making and I can help her keep an eye on Bee while Eric is away for the evening visiting his FWB Liza. He's pledged to watch Bee so she and I can have a date night of our choice in the next few weeks, we just need to pick the day. It's all very symbiotic.

Gia confided in me that, while she and Eric did manage to have sex the night I babysat for them, which was the whole point, in my mind, of me offering to take Bee to my place, it was... not the best ever. She says that she knows it's normal for desire to wax and wane over the course of a long-term relationship, but that she thinks the stress of so rarely having any time to themselves, so rarely having a serious conversation because they're always either focused on the baby or exhausted, is taking its toll on their intimacy. It's a pretty normal conundrum for new parents, but it sucks. :/

I took this as an opportunity to bring something up that had been on my mind. "Well," I said, "do you think some three-person action might... help spice things up?... or would it potentially be too weird for me to be intimate with both of you when your dynamic is off? Cuz, like, this isn't something that I need, but it's very much something I miss, so it's on the table!" She said she would LOVE to do that again but that it's hard for her to picture right now... like imaging driving a ferrari when you've gotten used to taking the bus. I suggested a night when we might give it a go, in a week and a half when a mutual friend will be babysitting for them and we'll all be going to the same event not far from my house. She said it was definitely a possibility.

So............ that's exciting.

I haven't done more than give Eric a long hug or kiss him on the back or shoulder in more than 1.5 years. O_O

Will it be super awkward? Will it be super hot? Will it happen at all? Stay tuned!
__________________
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.
Reply With Quote
 

Tags
bisexual, boundaries, mono/poly, pregnancy, secondary, unrequited, vee

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT. The time now is 05:51 AM.