The Polyamorous Dating Scene

[lemniscate]

Here's another vote for OKC! I met my wonderful amazing boyfriend on there. He was listed as the highest match percentage for me in my area, and they were RIGHT. I could be a walking advertisement for that site.

Polymatchmaker is a nice site, and we met some really nice friends from there, but I don't like it as well as OKC for some reason, can't really hit the nail on the head there.

Other than that, if you're kinky, there's Fetlife. I'm kinky, but for some reason have never made a profile on there, but my boyfriend and his wife are on there all the time. They really enjoy it.

As for making a poly dating website; my advice is that you learn more about being poly first. To me it doesn't seem that you're quite clear on the concept yet (not that this is bad, I acknowledge that you're new), but the first step I would take before building your site is RESEARCH the heck out of it so you learn what being poly really is, and what those who are poly might want out of a dating site so then before you put in all the effort and expense (I'm a web developer, so I understand) you'll have a strong foundation upon which to start.

Best,

[River]

Originally Posted by nycindie

As has been discussed at length in the thread titled 'What is this "lifestyle" you mention?,' which I think makes for a good read, we were simply pointing out that there is no one specific poly lifestyle to adhere to.

This is the point at which I like to joke that "We in the poly lifestyle have a secret handshake that only we in the poly lifestyle know about. If you're not in our lifestyle you don't know about our secret handshake or about our Rules & Regulations."

[opalescent]

River! Hush! Or the Poly Police will be after you! (They're the ones with more than one partner.)

[lemniscate]

Originally Posted by opalescent

River! Hush! Or the Poly Police will be after you! (They're the ones with more than one partner.)

Do they wear sexy uniforms?

[ImaginaryIllusion]

Originally Posted by lemniscate

Do they wear sexy uniforms?

Yes Please!

[lemniscate]

Originally Posted by ImaginaryIllusion

Yes Please!

Well, hell, now I want them to visit me!!

[Cleo]

I learned about OKC from this site, and joined, but it doesn't really work for me, because I'm in a tiny European country with very few OKC members let alone OKC members who are interested in dating someone poly.
I have had great experiences with a poly dating site in my country (not international). Had a lot of dates through this site, and ended up with 2 lovers.