He doesn't "let" them disrespect me. He truly does not see that they are doing so. When I point it out to him, he can kinda see and understand what I'm saying but he thinks it's an issue between me and them, not all of us.
And as I said before, I think that if we can come to a mutually arrived at agreement that we are in a polyamorous relationship, then within that context, we may be better able to address and resolve these issues.
I'm not looking for guidance about my relationship with L. I was asking for guidance about how to help L understand and accept this idea of polyamory.
I don't even know why I'm trying to clarify this, since you've already made up your mind.
ETA Has this touched a nerve for you or something YGirl? It seems to bother you a lot more than it bothers me.