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Old 04-30-2012, 04:02 PM
tkpnoir1101 tkpnoir1101 is offline
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Question How to introduce a new person into a relationship

Hello. I have recently joined the community an am looking for some helpful advice. I have been with my husband for over 6 years and married 6 months. I have always believed in the ability to love more than one person, and we both didn't mind an open sexual relationship, we have openly talked about both since we started dating.

While we have had several sessions of an open sexual relationship, up until recently I hadn't actually met anyone that I wanted another emotional relationship with. We recently had another 'open play' experience where either both of us or just one of us will be sexually interested in someone else. I reconnected with a friend that I had not seen in a few years but always talked to and was attracted too, so I choose him to be my partner for that time. He knows about my relationship with my husband, my views on love and agrees with it. After spending some time with him over a few months' period I realized that I was starting to feel for him what I felt for my husband. I talked with him about this and told him that I would talk to my husband too. He agreed and said that whatever my husband decided he would listen to.

Communication has always been our first rule in our relationship, so when I realized this I immediately but gently tried to talk to my husband about it. He was upset/angry about it and would talk about how I was enough for him emotionally. How he could handle me sleeping with my friend but didn't want me to have any romantic attachment to him. Honestly I was a little surprised by his reaction. He has known since we started dating that I believed in this and had talked about it several times throughout our relationship. He brings up the fact that I've never mentioned liking anyone before so he thought that I didn't really believe in it anymore. My only response it that honestly I hadn't met anyone who had made me feel like I could love them (other than him of course) until now.

We are talking more about it, and he has agreed to meet and talk to my friend. He is still upset by the idea of me romantically involved, but I feel like I would be going against myself if I didn't try for it.

Am I wrong to keep pushing this? If he hadn't known, if we had never talked about it then I wouldn't be. But I feel the connection with my friend as strongly as I felt it when I first met my husband.

So honestly I am kind of at a loss of where to go from here.
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