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Old 04-22-2012, 04:53 AM
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yeah, I can call it 'went well', but as I said it feels like i'm hurting him..but I love him so much :\
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Old 04-24-2012, 06:36 PM
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Don't lose hope; these things get better a little at a time.
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Old 04-26-2012, 01:01 PM
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He said he is gonna go and accept me and all that I told him and try to enjoy it rather than get man all the time and hope I forget her... I hope it works.. O.o
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Old 04-29-2012, 01:06 AM
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Well I'll be pulling for you, FWIW.
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Old 04-29-2012, 07:32 AM
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It is possible to be in love with more than one person at the same time, without having necessarily having sex with both. I can vouch for this with my own elimited experience. We r in a polyamorous relation with another couple since nearly an year. We r living together, but it has remained as a emotional level. and we r shortly planning to be poly in every sense with in a short time
We just cant just imagine we getting separated and living separately, so much is our atachement
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Old 05-03-2012, 08:00 AM
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Default Simple answer Yes, Complex answer see below

Simple answer:

You love you mother and your father (likely grandparents, siblings, etc) and if you have children, bet you love them all...

Now Complex answer.

Loving more then one partner reaches two main bumps in my opinion.

1) Our present society tends to discourage not/recognize, so folks are programmed to believe they can only love 'a person', that loving another somehow takes away from the first.

2) True solid 'love' would survive multiple relationships, however, Romantic involvement may not. If you 'LOVE' the person you want them to be happy, whether that is in your arms, or or some one elses arms. Now if you love BEING WITH the person, then you may resent them being with another.

Now for most it is some kind of combination of the two... You love the person (but you also love being with them), so while you may want them to be happy (and a part of you IS happy they can enjoy life with another), there is also a side that is jealous/envious of them.


It can be hard at time, but ask yourself this...

If you Love X.... you want them to be as happy as possible, so if they are truly happier spending time with Y, shouldn't you be happy for them...

Now isn't it even better if they are truly happy spending tme with Y and STILL want to spend time with you and try to make you happy also.

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Old 05-04-2012, 01:25 AM
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Good points, LO.
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Old 05-04-2012, 06:00 AM
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I agree, very good points.
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