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Old 03-28-2012, 04:06 AM
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An annoying breed, the one twue polys. Sorry you ran into that sort of nonsense.
It happens. The fact that we have multiple poly groups to choose from is amazing to me, and they weren't TOO bad, so if all else fails, I wouldn't hesitate to return to the meetup.
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Old 03-30-2012, 05:17 AM
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I have started conversations with a few different people on OKC. One man is someone I didn't think I would be interested in based on the profile, but he sent me a message and we have fallen into playful chit chat very well. I doubt there is romantic potential, but I could easily see us becoming friends. He and his wife are Portland natives, so that is a plus in my book right now! The woman I'm talking to never even thought of poly until after she got married and realized she missed being with women. So... She is looking for a serious girlfriend to form a more closed relationship with - at least closed on her side - she doesn't seem to have a preference on whether or not the woman she dates has other partners besides a male "primary." She just has a child and isn't interested in pursuing more than one relationship. We shall see if either of these things leads to ANYTHING, but it's good to be chatting with a few people at least.
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Old 04-02-2012, 09:32 PM
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We went to Ron Jeremy's Club Sesso Saturday night.... I pretty much hated it. lol It has a very "dance club" like atmosphere - blaring, mostly crappy music, and no room to breathe unless you go into one of the private play rooms. The play rooms themselves were nice, but we were only able to catch one empty once in a span of 5 hours. They had a floor that is only for couples and single woman which was quieter and more roomy, but it was entirely open so there wasn't even an option for privacy at all.

So, I don't plan on returning. I'd intended to drink a Ron Jeremy Rum and Coke whilst there and forgot. Keith and I had fun just the two of us... Only had real conversations with 2 couples - one I'd talked to online before, but since she was just going around the room making out with any woman who'd touch her while her boyfriend followed like a puppy, I was rather put off and then the second thought we were brand new to the swinger world and offered to "break us in" - also off putting to me. I think I've become more poly than swinger at the point as I am enjoying the thought of casual, more than likely one-time-thing sex less and less... I may jump in the sack with people rather quickly, but I can only do it if I LIKE them. And to like them I need to have a conversation which isn't really possible or looked for at this club.

In conclusion - I'm glad I went just because it has Ron Jeremy's name attached. It wasn't awful, but it's not my kind of place. I wouldn't really recommend it unless you want to go just to dance or have sex with random strangers. I'm not ready to give up on the swinging world quite yet since I think the community as a whole is a great place to meet new friends and find some enjoyable FWB situations, but unless we can find a more intimate club, that phase may have ended almost as soon as it began.
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Old 04-05-2012, 07:56 PM
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I deleted my "In a relationship with..." that linked my profile to Fiona's on fetlife today. I honestly forgot it was there and when I went in to edit a bit, realized that was a step I needed to take. Happily, I had no negative feelings about it whatsoever and it was done within seconds.

In other news, the few prospects I have are progressing nicely... One of the guys I'm talking to is going to meet me (and possibly Keith) at a comedy show that is coming up in a couple of weeks. His wife isn't into the type of comedy it is, and he was bummed about not having someone to go with. Seemed the perfect opportunity to meet face-to-face. I'm hoping he and Keith will get along (assuming Keith wants to go, too, which I'm fairly sure he will).

I met a woman I'd been talking to when we went to Sesso Saturday. She was incredibly drunk, though, so I didn't get to interact with her too much (I wasn't in the right mindset for sleeping with anyone new and she was very much in the "I wanna hook up with someone" phase of intoxication). We kissed a bit, though, and she made sure to send me a message telling me how good at it I am... lol We're planning on meeting for coffee at a local bookstore sometime soon to actually talk and get to know each other a bit better without inebriation or sex happening all around us to distract us. I definitely see the potential for good friends and company at swingers' events in her and her boyfriend, but we shall see.
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Old 04-07-2012, 06:21 PM
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I've just realized that I've subconsciously been putting off meeting anyone who could obviously be a romantic interest because of Keith. All of the "adding to our relationship" talk made me think about how couple-centric I have been acting since we moved.

I tend to avoid doing things during the week because Keith has to work and can't, so I don't feel like it's fair. (Totally my thing, he WANTS me to get out and do things but I feel bad spending the money while I'm not working and he's slaving away at a job he hates)

The guy I'm (hopefully) meeting a comedy show invited me to coffee the other day and I made up a lame excuse about job hunting. (WHY? Coffee is cheap, so it's not like I'd be spending a ton of money... I'm meeting this guy soon anyway, although Keith will probably be around too... I have no idea what my problem is on this one)

Keith has had zero luck out here even finding people to talk to. Every single person he has sent a message to on OKC and some other site he's on (some forum thing, I think.. I don't know the specifics) has ignored it. Not even random conversation or a no thank you or anything. This makes me feel terrible, because as hard as he tries to not let it bother him, he still feels rejected. He was talking to two women before we moved, but since we are now 2500 miles away and have no hope of traveling that often, those aren't even possibilities anymore. As silly and irrational as I know it is, I feel bad because I have dated/gone on dates with multiple people since it has been an option and he has only been on a couple of dates with a woman quite a while back. It seems so unfair since he is really a much better person than I am... lol

So, I'm not couple-centric in our approach to relationships so much as what activities I'm willing to do. I intellectually know that it's ridiculous for me to put off meeting people and getting settled out here, and that things will happen when they're supposed to happen, but I still feel like I should wait until Keith has SOMETHING to do (some group or place to play games) or SOMEONE (friends or romantic) to hang out with while I'm out - assuming it affects our time together, which honestly it shouldn't since I have Mon-Fri nights to do things while he's at work.

Blah... I feel like I'm over analyzing everything and just being ridiculous.
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Old 04-07-2012, 07:07 PM
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Blah... I feel like I'm over analyzing everything and just being ridiculous.
Omigosh, you have no idea how cute you are, not ridiculous! I love reading your posts and how you examine your thoughts. But it is true, at some point we do need to stop thinking so much, go outside, and play in the sunshine!
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Old 04-07-2012, 07:59 PM
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Omigosh, you have no idea how cute you are, not ridiculous! I love reading your posts and how you examine your thoughts. But it is true, at some point we do need to stop thinking so much, go outside, and play in the sunshine!
It's so funny you say that! The sun is shining beautifully today (FINALLY the beautiful spring I was promised when I moved to Oregon lol), so I am just waiting for Keith to get out of the shower and we are going hiking!
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Old 04-11-2012, 10:00 AM
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Hanging out with a guy from OKC tomorrow (/later today)! Turns out he lives really close... Like across the street close. Odd how things work out... Anyway, yeah. Keith told me today that I need to either look for another relationship or be sluttier. Apparently my outgoing-ness helps encourage him to be outgoing. Proving once again that my over-thinking is unnecessary. We've joined a few meetup groups both together and separately to try to find platonic friends, as well.

In other news... I'm thinking about getting a tattoo for my birthday. The thing that normally stops me when I get in the mindset of wanting one is money, but since Keith would spend money on me anyway.... I can't decide if I want the flower on my back or the heart on my chest. Or the sword and/or script on my leg. Eventually I would like to have them all, but which one first? It has to be the one that I want the most since I may hate the process and decide to never get the other two. I have a month and half-ish to make my decision and find an artist.
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Old 04-11-2012, 04:10 PM
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In other news... I'm thinking about getting a tattoo for my birthday. The thing that normally stops me when I get in the mindset of wanting one is money, but since Keith would spend money on me anyway...
Hey, what about asking him to pay for bringing your dog to where you are instead?
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Old 04-11-2012, 07:41 PM
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Hey, what about asking him to pay for bringing your dog to where you are instead?
Because I've been getting updates and she LOVES her new home. She went to live with the mother of the woman that lived next door to us in Indy. So, she is spoiled rotten - she gets to sleep in the bed with this woman, she goes EVERYWHERE with her (which is great because she loves rides ), and the one child that she has always loved (our neighbor's son) visits once a week so she gets to see him and play with him but doesn't live with him (she has a fairly low tolerance for children when she gets tired). I also looked up the safety concerns for dogs traveling separate from their people and there are quite a few deaths every year. She is a mix of 3 flat nosed breeds, as well, so the likelihood of her breathing being affected by flying is also increased. Keith told me we could make it work and get here out here, but since she had to adjust to a new home already, I don't really see the point of uprooting her life again for me. She seems perfectly happy where she's at, and since I know she's ok - I'm fine with it.
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