New and still figuring this out...

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If they end up not being as into each other as her husband and you, is there room for them to date separately? If you aren't able to go out as much as them, why not go out separately. There is a sense of autonomy in poly. I'm not sensing it here. You are four different people, marriage doesn't mean you have to do it together. Perhaps a step to take would be to break out and do things with them separately.