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02-20-2012, 12:37 AM
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I have to say this smacks of trollery.
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When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around. While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good. 
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02-20-2012, 12:40 AM
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I don't think any of us are saying that it's a chore to be with you, but it is psychologically unhealthy to be codependent; which to me is what most people seem to want when they claim that they want a partner who is their everything and vice versa.
Having your own life, friends, etc IS healthy and helps you appreciate your partner(s) for the amazing things they bring to your life. Everyone in my life is there because I want them there; friends, family, lovers. I tell people, that if you're in my life, you're important. When I chose someone to be mine (friend, lover, etc) they are mine for life, I'm fiercly loyal and protective of them. I am sorry that you've experienced people making you feel like you were a chore. Last edited by BrigidsDaughter; 02-20-2012 at 12:43 AM.
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02-20-2012, 03:52 AM
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If you have multiple siblings, does that mean they are less significant to you than if you have only one sibling?
Or if you have multiple children, are each of them less significant to you than if you have only one child?
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02-20-2012, 04:08 AM
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A chore? Now, this is interesting. Someone may have behaved in a way that made you feel like sticking with you was a chore. That's not poly. That's just someone who isn't willing to put effort into the relationship. That's a person-specific thing. You can't project it onto the group.
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02-20-2012, 09:57 PM
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Life is filled with all kinds of things to do. Being in a mono relationship is not healthy if two people are glued to the hip. Poly relationships are no different.
I don't believe you are trolling so much as i sounds as if you haven't been receiving the attention that you feel you decerve and desire sefton. That isn't a poly issue if that is the case, that's your issue. If you are finding the poly people you are dating don't have enough time for you then maybe poly isn't for you. If yoiu date someone who is mono to you and still feel like that then I would wonder if you need to look into this a bit more for yourself. Frankly, I would look deeper within yourself anyway. Maybe you aren't attracting partners who are a good fit, maybe you have some unresolved abandonment issues? As I said, this is your issue. Its not one to put on poly people.
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02-20-2012, 10:39 PM
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. Independent solo polyamorist seeking lover-friends willing to invest in friendship, companionship, and love, but without a need for partnership. Never confuse commitment with exclusivity, love with ownership, nor sex with intimacy! For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
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02-21-2012, 03:22 AM
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02-21-2012, 07:47 AM
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Maybe I believe there is good in everyone. Stupid me.
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02-21-2012, 02:59 PM
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very true nycindie .. trolling ... :/
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_______________________________________________ I am a 19 yr old straight man hoping to overcome all of my stress associated with being poly. Thanks parents, society, and non-believers  Katie (whitelettersky): Married 26 yr old and I'm her better third since July 2011 Also looking for a female to turn the "V-relationship" into an "N" or "M" so there is less stress on the tips of the "V" 
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