I'm BusGirl and am very new to this lifestyle. My boyfriend and I have been mono for 12 months and have been considering swinging, which we have not yet. However, I had a friend I was getting very close with and through the counsil of a poly friend I decided to be very open with my bf about how I was feeling and what my friend wanted, surprisingly he was very happy and fine for me to explore that. It hasn't worked out very well due to the other guy realising he got in over his head, but as it would turn out, this works just fine for me.
It all seems very clear now, but proceeding will be interesting.