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Old 02-16-2012, 02:54 AM
Bells Bells is offline
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Thanks guys, this actually really helped a lot. I think I was just feeling a bit insecure with everything. Hopefully with time that is going to tone down a bit.
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Old 02-16-2012, 03:45 AM
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Thanks guys, this actually really helped a lot. I think I was just feeling a bit insecure with everything. Hopefully with time that is going to tone down a bit.
I stopped comparing about 2 weeks ago, so who am I to reply to this thread, but here is my 2 cents:

The comparison thing is difficult-- and I did it for the first month until I realized my fiance is with my polar opposite and it does not matter either way.

What I mean to say is-- if she was EXACTLY like me, that would not matter either.


I am totally insecure and I own it honestly. I also realized through this thread that I stopped looking for and finding similarities and differences in my fiance's g/f. In my defense, I think I was just trying to find answers in the differences. She is SO very different than me that it was easy to find what I was personally looking for in the comparison, but if she was the same as me-- my emotional pain would still be there. Nothing would change, even if she was my exact twin.

This is a journey, and at times, an emotional and painful journey but either way it really does not help me to compare myself to her. I will always loose.

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