Poly Union/marriage Ceremonies

[MonoVCPHG]

I'm interested to hear what people have done or would consider doing if they choose to declare their poly relationship.

Redpepper and I were talking about this a little because the polygamy laws in Canada seem to be a hot topic.

Although raised catholic and engaging in a traditional relationship, I eloped which needless to say pissed a lot of people off. The ceremony didn't seem important to us, the commitment and vows did. I don't even know what the drive to get married was seeing how we weren't really inviting anyone to watch and you don't get gifts for eloping! It simply felt right.

So now I'd like to ask for experiences or expectations if any. What type of ceremony, public or private? What would your vows sound like? Although I am wired monogamous and despite eloping, my traditional conditioning is very ingrained when it comes to marriage/union vows. I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around this aspect of poly commitment. I'm seriously lost in this and look forward to the opinions of all. This topic fascinates and yet worries me a little.

[redpepper]

what is it that worries you?

[MonoVCPHG]

You need to get your men to work....up and at em Gorgeous

[rosevett]

We actually just celebrated a year of togetherness as a family of four adults. THe relationship has been building for the last 5 years. Seems everytime we have a commitment moment we add jewelry to the mix that is typically custom made and has specific meaning. We say sweet stuff and just have fun with it.

Obviously we can not have an offical bonding but we do take these celebrations as serious forward movement for our family and for the most part it's a fly by the moment thing but really does hit home in a heartfelt and sincere commitment/vow/oath.

If anyone is interested - I can share more of the details of the most recent celebration.

[MonoVCPHG]

Originally Posted by rosevett

If anyone is interested - I can share more of the details of the most recent celebration.

Of course I'm interested That's why I started this thread...thanks for sharing.

[GroundedSpirit]

Hi Mono,

Not sure what your beliefs etc are but you might want to check out some of the beautiful pagan handfasting ceremonies. I'm sure if you just google "handfasting ceremonies" you'll get plenty of hits.
I've seen some very beautiful ceremonies, usually modified by the people involved, to include elements especially meaningful to them.
Good luck !

[MonoVCPHG]

Well I'm kind of looking for the specifics of what people have done or would expect to do and insight into what it would mean to them. Thanks for the response though.

[GroundedSpirit]

Yea - think you'll find that in detail when you get looking. When I get a moment I'll be happy to look a little myself and see if I discover anything that would help you get started.

Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG

Well I'm kind of looking for the specifics of what people have done or would expect to do and insight into what it would mean to them. Thanks for the response though.

[LovingRadiance]

I've been thinking about this a lot too recently. No plans or anything-just wondering about it. I know there is an example in the Love Without Limits book, but it didn't do a lot for me.

I hope you get some more in depth answers Mono!

[MonoVCPHG]

Originally Posted by GroundedSpirit

Yea - think you'll find that in detail when you get looking. When I get a moment I'll be happy to look a little myself and see if I discover anything that would help you get started.

Sorry, you misunderstood what I want. I am not looking for myself..I'm asking others what thier experiences or expectations are.