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Old 02-03-2012, 11:59 PM
persephone persephone is offline
Join Date: Feb 2012
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Default How do you tell a friend when the physical isn't working?

Hi fellow polys. I'm new here. My issue is as follows. I have a very good friend and he and I just slept together for the first time. He's a great guy, he's honest, there is mutual caring and respect, I get along with his wife, he gets along with my husband, we're all poly and everything should work, right? Sadly though, it didn't, at least for me. I enjoyed snuggling him but the chemistry was somehow off. The worst problem, though, was his....well, size. I am a bit of a size lover but average will usually do me OK if the guy has skill. In this case, though, it didn't work for me even though my friend has skill. He was so small that I was pretty much unable to enjoy having sexual intercourse with him. I barely even noticed we were having it, actually. He did make sure to satisfy me another way, which I appreciated, but intercourse is very important to me, if it doesn't work, I don't find other things much compensation.

So now I am wondering what to do? He'd make a perfect boyfriend in many ways, and I definitely have some feelings for him already. I don't think he is thinking we'll be able to have sex frequently, we both have time challenges and privacy issues because of kids at home.

I know he thinks that things went well today. I feel terrible about this. I want a relationship with him, but I guess I don't want the sex part. I know he does though.

Anyone else ever have this problem?
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