The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

[Magdlyn]

Originally Posted by RunicWolf

This gets extra frustrating for me. She apparently decided months ago she wanted nothing to do with us in that way, but failed to tell anyone. I've been living within boundaries set so that Pretty Lady would be okay and feel comfortable, and thus shutting down other opportunities for, well, anything.

The only good side to this is that now I don't have to push everyone away and if the option for a new, fulfilling, relationship crops up I can actually act on it. It hurts how I found out, and that it happened, but it's a good kind of pain. Like the pain after a surgery but before it's fully healed. Our relationship, or lack there of, was a major sore spot with me.

Oh, so you were poly-fi for PL's benefit, but she wouldnt have sex w you for months? Now that she's admitted she wants to be platonic, Wendigo is fine with you looking for others?

Wow. Too bad she left you hanging all those months.

[RunicWolf]

Originally Posted by Magdlyn

Now that she's admitted she wants to be platonic, Wendigo is fine with you looking for others?

He is. He's actually actively encouraging me. He knows there are things I need that I can't get in my current situation. He also feels terrible about the whole thing once he realized how under my skin it was getting.

Originally Posted by Magdlyn

Wow. Too bad she left you hanging all those months.

I understand why. With her upbringing she avoids confrontation like the plague and does not like to hurt people. She's got a very kind heart and I don't think she knew how much the situation was hurting me, otherwise she'd of spoken up earlier.

I understand it, but it still hurts.

[SourGirl]

Could you all please send good vibes, prayers and good thoughts towards Marksbabygirl`s husband, herself, and their family. For those that don`t know her, she is a member of this site. ( conincidently, started the redux of this thread.)

MBG`s husband became very ill on January 19th. At first they thought it was just a stomach-flu bug. As he has other major health problems, it soon became apparent that he needed to see a doctor.
Short version : An initial diagnosis of pancreatitis, had them believing he was very sick, but with the right treatment, he would get better.
He got worse, much worse. At one point after switching hospitals, they were told to prepare for the worse. A doctor recommended a surgery that might improve his odds, so MBG`s husband, went into surgery, and much to the relief of family and friends, survived it. He is now making small steps in the right direction.

I talked to MBG this morning, and she would really appreciate any well-wishes. There is a long recovery process as he improves. MBG will need all the care and support she can get.
If you don`t know about this already, please send prayers. Even if you don`t believe in the power of prayer for yourself, this is for someone else who does.



Thanks all.

[Phy]

Best wishes for your health dh of MBG.

I haven't prayed since my early teens, but if you wish for it, I will send a prayer to you in my own way. Get well and do it as soon as possible, there are loved ones waiting for you.

[SourGirl]

Originally Posted by Phy

Best wishes for your health dh of MBG.

I haven't prayed since my early teens, but if you wish for it, I will send a prayer to you in my own way. Get well and do it as soon as possible, there are loved ones waiting for you.

Thanks Phy, I know it will be greatly appreciated.

[Scott]

I commented on how I was doing in this post in my blog thread. Other then that, managing.. nice to have found this poly forum, was missing having a forum to talk to fellow poly people :-)

[Magdlyn]

Originally Posted by SourGirl

Could you all please send good vibes, prayers and good thoughts towards Marksbabygirl`s husband, herself, and their family.

SG, thanks for sharing this.

MGB, I'm so sorry to hear of Mark's current health struggles. Sending hugs and vibes for a full and speedy recovery!

[BrigidsDaughter]

Originally Posted by SourGirl

Could you all please send good vibes, prayers and good thoughts towards Marksbabygirl`s husband, herself, and their family.

Absolutely! Thank you for the heads up, SG.

[BrigidsDaughter]

As for me, I'm enjoying all of the different shades of ouch I am turning after spending yesterday at the mercy of Wendigo and Runic Wolf.

[RunicWolf]

Originally Posted by BrigidsDaughter

As for me, I'm enjoying all of the different shades of ouch I am turning after spending yesterday at the mercy of Wendigo and Runic Wolf.

You're welcome. I do try.

As for myself, I'm putting about the internet trying to plumb my creative side for the right kind of ideas. I've got Zombieland in the background, atm, and coming up blank on what I "need" to work on. That's the problem with a muse. sometimes she cooperates. Sometimes she decides you need to do something against the grain.