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Old 01-19-2012, 05:34 AM
dragonflysky dragonflysky is offline
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Originally Posted by umbraven View Post
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I've realized that I want him to tell me he feels like I'm his partner. I want him to be as fiercely in love with me as I am courageously in love with him.

...........My problem is that I have no concrete demands. I don't want monogamy or even a label. But equality and respect would be a good start. I want to be regarded as his partner by him, I don't care what he tells other people. Because otherwise I feel like I'm deeply in love with my best friend.
Are you sure that you don't want a "label"?? The word "partner" came up twice in this part of your discussion.
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Old 01-19-2012, 08:46 PM
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Okay, let me rephrase to see if I understood it correctly. Something happened a year ago which he thinks you have not sufficiently atoned for. He is trying to hurt you, because according to his perception, you hurt him first. He can have his unique definition of dating and you can dislike labels alltogether, but at some point in any discussion, words have to start meaning something everyone can agree on. The way I see it, you are having an ongoing discussion on the boundaries of your relationship but to avoid losing face, are pretending not to be invested in the outcome at all.
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