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Old 01-18-2012, 11:05 PM
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... if you can't please a woman, it could also be down to her just not being all that sensitive.
Or very sensitive. Some guys don't know how to adjust their technique according to different anatomies and sensitivities.
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Old 01-19-2012, 04:38 AM
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My first reaction to the thought of Wife's physical intimacy was also extreme discomfort. (Actually, I think the idea of emotional intimacy worries me more.)
I had a similar reaction. I was angry at first, followed by fear. Basically I was just afraid of her losing feelings for me and dropping me for someone else.

After much assurance from my lovely Jess, we both started looking at the lifestyle to get a general feel for it. Gradually I became less anxious and more comfortable with the relationship dynamic. Baby steps you could say, was somewhat of a need for me in order to calm down and breathe.

Throughout this experience I learned to shed the previous monogamous philosophy that was rigorously brought upon me by my family and others I knew.
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Old 01-19-2012, 06:22 AM
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Or very sensitive. Some guys don't know how to adjust their technique according to different anatomies and sensitivities.
It makes me crazy when they do that. It's worsened by alcohol.
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