Well, you know my situation with 'T' .
It got easier when he wasn`t around, and I haven`t yet 'settled' when he is around. I`m doing a excellent job of keeping it to myself though.
However, I long ago made the acknowledgement, and decision, that I can love 'NSA'. When you learn to let go of that 'angst' then there is a certain calmness, and acceptance that comes about. Self-discipline is also a handy tool.
I`m curious about nycindie`s 'lust' theory. I`ve had the hots for Gina Gershon for 12 years,....it isn`t dying down. Haha. :P