Originally Posted by NorCalK
...I guess I am one of those "unicorns" mentioned... I had no idea I was, though, until I was poking around a dating site basically looking to have my first experience with a woman and fate was kind to me, in the form of a message from a wonderful male/female couple. I figured hey, why not have sex with a guy too, I know I like that and it will make it less awkward than just a girl and my pounding heart....
Actually, no, you aren't a unicorn. A unicorn has to be actively looking to get involved with a couple. You weren't actively seeking a couple, so you don't quite qualify.
Not that that's a bad thing. There's nothing better about being a unicorn and finding a couple than not being a unicorn and finding a couple you weren't searching for! If you found a good connection, it's all good!
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.