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Old 12-29-2011, 06:07 AM
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Oooh. Clever.
Shhhh. 'nuff of that. I`m just a dumbass cowgirl. Next I`ll be dazzling you all, with my ability ta count ta 5 !

....but not right now. Gonna go drink-me sum moonshine with DH.Yup, yup. He has to drown his sorrows in a loss, and I have to celebrate mine.

<cue mild giggling>

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Old 12-29-2011, 11:28 AM
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SG....ixna on the oonshinema the guys a cop.
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Old 12-29-2011, 09:37 PM
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SG....ixna on the oonshinema the guys a cop.
*grumbles*
Next, you`ll tell me we can`t bet on the hockey game !
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Old 12-29-2011, 09:54 PM
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Quick question : Do you tend to be a 'Glass is half-full', or a 'Glass is half-empty' kind of person ?

Which is different then asking if someone is a pessimist or an optimist.
LoL I'm a scientist. Assuming the glass is not in a vacuum, then it's completely full: Half full of liquid, half full of gas.

Is that like... uber-optimism?? Even the void has potential? Always a silver lining kind of thing? *shrug*

Sorry. I'm being difficult.

Also... I think of optimism/pessimism as being views of how the future will unfold. Optimists think that even when things are rough, they will always get better. Pessimists think that even when things are going well, they will always turn to crap.

Glass half-full/half-empty is more an outlook on the present. e.g. you get fired from your job. Glass half-full outlook is that you didn't really fit with that job anyway and now you can find something you really like. Glass half-empty is that you're a failure who isn't cut out for anything and now you're screwed because you have no job.
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Old 12-29-2011, 10:39 PM
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LoL I'm a scientist. Assuming the glass is not in a vacuum, then it's completely full: Half full of liquid, half full of gas.
This is awesome! I hope I remember it.
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Old 12-30-2011, 02:54 AM
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SG....ixna on the oonshinema the guys a cop.
Nah, it's fine. I don't work for the Department of Internet Alchohol Control so she's good.

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LoL I'm a scientist. Assuming the glass is not in a vacuum, then it's completely full: Half full of liquid, half full of gas.
Yeah, that's right.

Did you know that sea monkeys don't have a brain?
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Old 12-30-2011, 03:39 AM
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Did you know that sea monkeys don't have a brain?
Aren't they really brine shrimp or some shit like that?
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Old 12-30-2011, 11:18 AM
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Aren't they really brine shrimp or some shit like that?
According to their website, they are the labradoodle of brine shrimp.

Never studied 'em in depth, so I couldn't say anything else.
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Old 12-30-2011, 06:38 PM
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I'm having a hard time feeling sympathetic to your situation, KindaPOd.

It sounds like you want to punish your wife for loving someone else for all these years, and reward your ex-girlfriend-now-primary-girlfriend for pining for you / loving only you for all these years.

That's an immature and self-centered approach.

Why don't you care about your wife's feeling? She loved both you and her boyfriend for many years, and tried to make it work with both of you. But you checked out as soon as you had your adoring ex-girlfriend back.

Maybe you should move out so your wife can divorce you?
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Old 12-30-2011, 07:37 PM
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It sounds to me like he's been up front with dislike of the situation and the damage it would do to him with in their dynamic. What some may see as punishment I see as the natural consqence of a loss connection ....more like indifference. Not trying to hurt her ...just doesn't really care if it happens as a consequence of this dynamic that she created.

Economic circumstances and a kid preclude divorce as a attractive option.
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