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Old 12-28-2011, 06:55 PM
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Hey guys,

So im on like week two of this, and i know its still early, but the problem is..there's some shallow people out there. Ive tried the online route, but the minute i send my picture they say thanks but no thanks. My wife says don't worry about it , if those people are shallow, they are not worth my time. Its just really disheartening, and makes me want to give up. I don't want to do that though, i really care about this lifestyle and dont want to be steered by just cruel people. If you have any advice i would really appreciate it.
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Old 12-28-2011, 07:21 PM
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That's more of a thing you find with the dating scene---particularly online---regardless of polyamorous or monogamous. Ask just about any single person out there regardless of whether they are poly or mono and they are dealing with the same thing.
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Old 12-28-2011, 07:22 PM
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thank you r i wont get down about it, its just getting knocked down and picked back up again
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Old 12-29-2011, 04:28 PM
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Yes people are shallow and yes it sucks. The thing is that these shallow people aren't compatible with you since (I assume) you aren't a shallow person. So it's better to find out sooner rather than later that this isn't someone you want to be involved with anyway.
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Old 12-29-2011, 05:03 PM
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It doesn't necessarily mean that someone is shallow if they turn you down after seeing your picture. Many people have very specific "types" that they know they are attracted to, and that's just how it goes. I don't think it's shallow to acknowledge that one is not attracted to everyone. But make sure you are sending pics that show you at your best. Sometimes there are other elements in the picture that turn people off.
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Old 12-29-2011, 07:01 PM
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OKC has a really interesting app that will tell you which picture of yours is the best received demographically. I was surprised by its suggestion for me.

I believe you don't even have to post the pictures to your account, if you don't want to.

Edit: I found it helpful, with me being an ogre and all...
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