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Old 12-23-2011, 02:08 AM
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Originally Posted by riftara View Post
My question is more on a should I shut up until it is a problem or freak everyone out and tell them the possibility, which I mean its a possibility every month, and we all know this, but bringing that possibility to light may have long-reaching relationship problems for me which Im not sure if its worth omitting the truth until I find out if I am pregnant or not
I think it really depends on if we're talking about option A or option C. Option C, if you're pregnant, has the most destructive consequences, so that doesn't seem like a good choice. Lying by omission in option A isn't so bad, as long as you come clean about whose baby it is and how it happened if you do end up being pregnant (don't they deserve to know?).

I still like option B best because it's what I would want from a partner if, y'know, I was capable of impregnating a partner. I would want to be trusted enough to be given the truth about an important issue that affects us both even if my partner was afraid it would hurt me, or hurt our relationship, to know. Trust is just way too important to me, and I want actual trustworthiness from my loved ones, not just the appearance of trustworthiness while they hold back the tough stuff.

So, in order of preference, B, A, C. But I'm getting repetitive now, so I'll stop.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.
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