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Old 12-02-2011, 03:56 AM
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I would hate to feel a "spark" with someone and THEN learn that he is polyamorous.

So I would recommend mentioning it up front on the profile. (I have lately become a fan of OK Cupid and have received compliments on my own honesty there).

He could also try seeking out women who are openly polyamorous and/or into group sex at whatever sites/places are best for that.

If he wears his wedding ring normally, he should leave it on. But I also think he shouldn't make dates with anyone unless he's already clear about being married.
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Old 12-02-2011, 09:51 AM
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What do married people put on OKC? The options are:
Single
Seeing someone / here for friends
Married / here for friends

I hate boxes, especially when they don't fit.

Regarding wedding rings, I personally like mine. I don't look at it as ownership at all, but I guess that's because I'm the one who proposed and bought the engagement ring that I wear :P At the same time, I don't think any less of married people who don't wear them.

If he usually wears his, then taking it off will leave an obvious mark on his finger. Astute women will pick up on that even more than the ring itself -- why did he take it off? What else is he hiding?

*winks* I would hate to feel a "spark" with someone and then learn that they're not polyamorous :P

Edit... I followed through with "What do married people do" by creating a profile and answering some questions. Apparently that was like 3 or 4 hours ago... :P
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Old 12-02-2011, 10:06 PM
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What do married people put on OKC? The options are:
Single
Seeing someone / here for friends
Married / here for friends

I hate boxes, especially when they don't fit.
If you choose Married, you’ll appear as "Available" if you are check off either "short-term dating" or "long-term dating" (or both) in the “I’m looking for” section of your profile.
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