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Are you Male/Female/Intersex/anything else you feel comfortable with 8 88.89%
Have you ever been involved in Group Sex? 6 66.67%
If so, with how many people. 5 55.56%
Did you participate in the act of sex or just watched? 5 55.56%
How many times have you participated in groupsex? 5 55.56%
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Old 11-28-2011, 03:12 AM
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This is my second attempt at making the poll. I realized the poll I made earlier wasn't done correctly. I was taking votes instead of asking the answer in the comments. So I'll post a few questions below and I'd appreciate it if you could answer them in comments below.

1. Male/Female/Intersex
2. Have you ever been involved in group sex?
3. How many people did you engage in group sex with? (Ex: 3,4,5...)
4. Did you participate in the act of sex or did you watch?
5. How many times have you participated in group sex?
6. Do you prefer 2 women or 2 men?
7. What is your sexual orientation? (Straight/Gay/etc.)
8. Are you in a relationship? (Married/BF,GF)
9. Does this hurt your relationship?
10. Is this what you prefer or are you making a sacrifice for you partner?

If you could just answer those questions in your comments I'd be very thankful.

And in the last thread I was asked about the background of this poll and here it is. I am a College college student. I am doing a presentation in my Sociology of Sexuality class on Group Sex. The goal of this poll is to understand who is involved in group sex and if it's healthy for a relationship. I chose this website because the poly community heavily participates in the act of group sex and I thought it was a good place to get some information.

Thank you for answering the questions.
That's better.

1) Male
2 thru 5) I have not. I might at some point. but not right now. Her husband might want to watch th 2 of us as some point. I've said no for now.
6) er.... Well the me and 2 girls thing is a nice thought. But i havn't got a spare girl handy at the moment. There might be the reverse with my girlfriend and her husband. Maybe.
7) Straight
8) yes. see 6
9) No idea
10) well. My girlfriend did day she had that fantasy. I'm not really opposed. Just not at the point in our relationship. Plus there are there the logistics involving babysitting.


Sorry, life doesn't fit little checkboxes so well.
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Old 11-28-2011, 03:27 AM
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1. Male/Female/Intersex
2. Have you ever been involved in group sex?
3. How many people did you engage in group sex with? (Ex: 3,4,5...)
4. Did you participate in the act of sex or did you watch?
5. How many times have you participated in group sex?
6. Do you prefer 2 women or 2 men?
7. What is your sexual orientation? (Straight/Gay/etc.)
8. Are you in a relationship? (Married/BF,GF)
9. Does this hurt your relationship?
10. Is this what you prefer or are you making a sacrifice for you partner?
Hopefully you do want to hear from people who haven't had group sex, as I suspect that's the majority here.
1. Female
2. No
3. n/a
4. n/a
5. 0
6. I've had both fantasies, but don't know that I'd let either one happen.
7. Straight
8. Married plus in loving relationships with 2 men I don't have sex with
9. It's all a growth process
10. The part about not having group sex? It's what we all prefer.
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Old 11-28-2011, 04:30 AM
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1. Male/Female/Intersex - Female
2. Have you ever been involved in group sex? - Yes
3. How many people did you engage in group sex with? (Ex: 3,4,5...) - Usually 3, once 4
4. Did you participate in the act of sex or did you watch? - I've done both at different times
5. How many times have you participated in group sex? - I couldn't begin to count, as it was a regular occurence in more than one old casual relationship, and is the norm in one my current serious relationships... it would be like saying "how many times have you participated in oral sex?"
6. Do you prefer 2 women or 2 men? - No preference, though this is worded really weirdly for me as I've usually been with one woman and one man when in multi-partner sexual situations... I guess since I'm a woman that makes it 2 women, but that's been a matter of circumstance, not preference. Plus it would make no sense for people in quads or in 3 person settings in which all involved are of the same sex. Tres heteronormative, if I may say so.
7. What is your sexual orientation? (Straight/Gay/etc.) - Bi
8. Are you in a relationship? (Married/BF,GF) - I currently have a bf and a gf (who aren't involved with each other, for the record).
9. Does this hurt your relationship? - It's the normal mode of sex I have with my gf, and it's not something I do with my bf, so no and n/a respectively.
10. Is this what you prefer or are you making a sacrifice for you partner? - It's something I freely choose and enjoy, I wouldn't say I "prefer" it over couple sex but it's certainly not a sacrifice.

Are there message boards for swingers? Honestly, that's probably the crowd you're looking for with this more than polyfolk.
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Old 11-28-2011, 05:20 AM
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1. Male/Female/Intersex Female
2. Have you ever been involved in group sex? yes
3. How many people did you engage in group sex with? (Ex: 3,4,5...) 3
4. Did you participate in the act of sex or did you watch? participated (and once I was present where an orgy was taking place but it had nothing to do with me).
5. How many times have you participated in group sex? once
6. Do you prefer 2 women or 2 men? I don't think I have a preference so much. I honestly don't know if I would ever be in the position to have group sex again.
7. What is your sexual orientation? (Straight/Gay/etc.) Bi
8. Are you in a relationship? (Married/BF,GF) Married with a girlfriend
9. Does this hurt your relationship? It didn't hurt the relationship I was in but it did end a friendship with the 3rd party.
10. Is this what you prefer or are you making a sacrifice for you partner? It happened, it was fun at the time, would I go in search of it? Probably not. Are either of my partners pushing for it? No.
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Old 11-28-2011, 07:14 AM
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1. Male/Female/Intersex
Female
2. Have you ever been involved in group sex?
No
3. How many people did you engage in group sex with? (Ex: 3,4,5...)
N/A
4. Did you participate in the act of sex or did you watch?
N/A
5. How many times have you participated in group sex?
N/A
6. Do you prefer 2 women or 2 men?
if I do end up participating, at the moment I'd likely prefer 2 men
7. What is your sexual orientation? (Straight/Gay/etc.)
Straight but bicurious at the moment
8. Are you in a relationship? (Married/BF,GF)
Married & a BF
9. Does this hurt your relationship?
No
10. Is this what you prefer or are you making a sacrifice for you partner?
If you're talking about being poly? I prefer it. If you're talking about group sex I am open to it under certain circumstances, but it surely wouldn't be FOR any of my partners, and definitely isn't a preference.
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Old 11-28-2011, 11:34 AM
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Well, just from a research perspective, you might want to rethink questions 6, 9 and 10. It's hard to see who you are addressing with question 6... seems like you are assuming women in threesomes, ie do they prefer 2 men or 2 women? I'm not sure.

And the last question... maybe you could ask what the overall effect of this has been on the person (not their relationship, because they may not be in one) as it seems kind of loaded as it's written. If you ask people themselves whether they are happy or not with their choices, you may get a more accurate result, although, you are on a polyamory forum...

My answers:
1. Female
2. Yes
3. 3
4. Participate
5. Just a handful
6. I don't have a preference, but perhaps 2 men
7. Fluid
8. I have a boyfriend and a girlfriend
9. Absolutely not
10. No sacrifices, everyone is happy
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Old 11-29-2011, 06:45 AM
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I'm not too keen on the assumption that poly is about group sex but I am going to ignore that part and answer anyway. For the record it both is and isn't... complicated and worth researching further... For me some of my group sex was casual, not what I describe as poly and more about swinging or part of having an open relationship. Try searching in the tags for "casual sex," "sex," and anything else that might relate... or start another thread on this.

1. Male/Female/Intersex-female
2. Have you ever been involved in group sex?-yes
3. How many people did you engage in group sex with? (Ex: 3,4,5...)-up to I dunno, 8-10? Don't know how many were there.
4. Did you participate in the act of sex or did you watch?-both
5. How many times have you participated in group sex?-upward of 5? Don't remember
6. Do you prefer 2 women or 2 men?-whatever, a body is a body... makes no difference to me
7. What is your sexual orientation? (Straight/Gay/etc.)-pansexual
8. Are you in a relationship? (Married/BF,GF)married,bf's and gf
9. Does this hurt your relationship?-It hurt me in many aspects and ended some of my relationships (long stories there)... some of it was sport sex, and no, none of that hurt my relationship at the time.
10. Is this what you prefer or are you making a sacrifice for you partner?-I didn't do it for anyone else but me and the people I was with... its debatable whether or not I did it for the people involved. Likely I did sometimes.
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Old 11-29-2011, 09:51 AM
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1. Male/Female/Intersex - female
2. Have you ever been involved in group sex? - yes
3. How many people did you engage in group sex with? - 2 others besides me
4. Did you participate in the act of sex or did you watch? - I took part in it
5. How many times have you participated in group sex? - twice
6. Do you prefer 2 women or 2 men? - male partners only
7. What is your sexual orientation? (Straight/Gay/etc.) - straight
8. Are you in a relationship? (Married/BF,GF) - yes
9. Does this hurt your relationship? - I don't really understand this question. What do you mean by "hurt" the relationship? Hurt how? Stir up jealousy? Not sure how to answer, but if "this" refers to polyamory, no. Non-exclusivity is an important part of my relationship. If "this" refers to group sex, no, because I have only participated in group sex while single, and it was years ago, way before I chose to pursue polyamorous relationships. If I ever participate in group sex again, it will have to be a situation where trust and respect are already firmly established, so I doubt it would hurt whatever relationships I will be in at that time.
10. Is this what you prefer or are you making a sacrifice for you partner? - Again, I'm not sure what this question is asking. I don't "prefer" group sex, nor do I consider my current lover a partner, but I wouldn't participate in group sex unless I really wanted to. If anyone forced me into a sexual situation against my wishes, that would be rape. If I did it when I didn't want to, I don't understand how it could be a "sacrifice" in any way.
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1. Male/Female/Intersex Male
2. Have you ever been involved in group sex? YES Once or twice
3. How many people did you engage in group sex with? (Ex: 3,4,5...) 5
4. Did you participate in the act of sex or did you watch? Yes to both
5. How many times have you participated in group sex? twice
6. Do you prefer 2 women or 2 men? 2+ men and one woman
7. What is your sexual orientation? (Straight/Gay/etc.) Bi
8. Are you in a relationship? (Married/BF,GF) Married
9. Does this hurt your relationship? Nope. Been together for 18 years now
10. Is this what you prefer or are you making a sacrifice for you partner? We both enjoy it very much.
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Old 12-01-2011, 11:33 PM
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1. Male/Female/Intersex
Female

2. Have you ever been involved in group sex?
Yes

3. How many people did you engage in group sex with? (Ex: 3,4,5...)
2 and 3 (different occasions)

4. Did you participate in the act of sex or did you watch?
Participate, I have watched before but I never watched more that 2 people at once... not sure if it counts or not.

5. How many times have you participated in group sex?
A couple of times

6. Do you prefer 2 women or 2 men?
Only had it with men. As I'm not bisexual I would probably enjoy it less with more women than men but I still think it would probably be a nice experience.


7. What is your sexual orientation? (Straight/Gay/etc.)
Straight

8. Are you in a relationship? (Married/BF,GF)
Married to a man

9. Does this hurt your relationship?
It never hurt any relationship I was at the time of the events as far as I could tell (they didn't all happen during the same relationship)

10. Is this what you prefer or are you making a sacrifice for you partner?
I wouldn't do it for a sacrifice. I've only ever done it because I think it's fun. I wouldn't say it's "what I prefer" though, the huge majority of my experience has been one on one.
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