I have recently found myself head over heels in love with a woman who happens to be head over heels for me. I am a lesbian, she is pansexual and is currently in a cimmitted relationship with a man. As we speak and message and see each other, I can't help but want to spend my life with her. Then I remember the part about her being polyamorous and having a life partner and I wonder how this will work for me. I want, so much, to be with her and, at this point am not afraid of the jealousy - however, I recognize that I am the one she is wooing and paying attention to right now. What happens when I have to share that attention... Just wanted to be here with people who don't judge me for my choices. Thoughts? Recommended readings? Advice? All welcome. Thank you.