I know. I've started the process of backing away from him. He is still pushing to see me. I know this is going to take sometime to do. I love him very much and trying to focus on the good that we've had isn't working anymore.
I'm tired and hurt. He continues to think that just ignoring it will make it go away.
My slight relationship I had with her is now non-exsistant. So contacting her is out of the question. I don't think though that she would be as upset with this as he says she would be. She posted on another board that she offered it to him (partially because she wanted to fluid bond with her other BF) and he turned her down saying "he knows what he has with me"
He later said, after I confronted him (that post was how I found out that they weren't using protection) he said that he meant he was happy with our sex life. I don't think that's what he meant, but it doesn't matter.