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Old 11-12-2011, 10:21 AM
Nighthorse Nighthorse is offline
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Default Poly to Mono to Single to Mono to Single and keep on trying to get back

Always Polyamorous, often Single, seldom Monogamous but always Honest, trying to get back to that relationship space where jealousy is not celebrated but altruism is--the place we once and always belonged. Every love is different, every time. I try to find the true family I feel destined to bring together but keep drawing the monogamous kind of love my way in the process. What does one do when one continues to fall in love while one's partner is focused in stereoscopic vision on a plastic couple standing atop a wedding cake? Not loving the one any less, the plus one or more calls my love outward and upward, ever expanding. The only one's heart remains a single line that points just in two directions. It is chained to the mores of a society in relationship bondage, the paradigm refusing to shift where love wishes to go. Which way is better? For me, expansion brings peace and happiness. To the world, this makes me unsure of my desire. They don't know me but, by their definitions, should they own me? Is it okay to be owned in pursuit of freedom? No ill intentions are assumed on the part of the partners who can't see beyond them and me to three or four or more. Nevertheless, I feel responsible to push the boundaries of what is normal and, if possible, break them: to smash monogamy-normalism and the patriarchy for which it stands.
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Old 11-12-2011, 02:52 PM
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Magdlyn Magdlyn is offline
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Hi Nighthorse,

You'll find plenty of kindred spirits here!

I always have to ask, what is your age? Are you male, female, something in between? Straight, bi, gay?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 62) loving Pixie (poly, F, 40) since January 2009, living together since 2013
Seeing Kahlo (polyish, M, 45)
Master, (mono, M, 36), Pixie's Dom/bf for 3+ years
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Old 11-13-2011, 06:25 AM
Nighthorse Nighthorse is offline
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Most of that information is in my profile. I'd repost it, but I only want registered users to be able to know that information.

My age varies depending upon who is looking. Let's just say I can buy alcohol but rarely do so. Bouncers take an extra hard look at me before letting me into night clubs. My friends say I look 19 until they see my ID. Then they wonder if the ID is fake. When I was ten, I wrote articles under a pen name and posed as a 30-year-old professor. I hadn't considered the consequences of my actions until I received a message from a grad student asking me out. I prefer to date people who act as if they're in their thirties, no matter what year they list as their date of birth.
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