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Old 10-27-2011, 01:57 PM
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Catfish, you're doing great. I enjoyed our chat this week and I know you will find a place of satisfaction and equilibrium with everything that you're dealing with, because you are willing to look at it and not hide out. You have my support and friendship.
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Thanks for sharing this journey with us my friend. You're an amazing man who's spirit has always touched me beyond the limits of this forum.

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I'm done here. You are all great. Slightly crazy, but great.
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I'm done here. You are all great. Slightly crazy, but great.
Thanks for all your sharing my friend.
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Old 11-22-2011, 09:08 PM
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Gawd loss hurts in matters of loving, whether it be the loss of a familiar pattern of loving or whatever it may be.

I'm with you in this feeling of hurt and loss, friend. As you shall see when you read my upcoming blog post.

I wish us both--and all others--the very best.
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Upon revisiting this forum after some time away, my mistakes are painfully obvious, as well as my love.

I live in California now. I have been holed up in paradise for 16 months, learning, working and soaking in sunshine. In 19 days, I will be returning home.

Rarechild and I ended our marriage in November of 2011. We will be legally divorced in November of this year. We have agreed to hold contact until then so that we may both heal.

Charlie and I haven't spoken in a very, very long time.

Over the course of the last week, I have poured over mountains of text; records of events that were amazingly contradictory to my memory.

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
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I am very grateful for the journals, blogs, emails and art that have chronicled my relationship with Rarechild. The perspective I have gained through re-learning my past has broken free my heart again. Compassion is the key to healing.

The path to my present state, metaphorically and physically, has been a long journey through many phases of grief. The ones we love most will inevitably lead us to face our deepest emotions.

I mark the important moments of my life with music. This one captures my heart's memory well.

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I'm sorry for the hurt and pain. But so happy to hear that you are healing and growing.
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Old 08-28-2013, 04:47 AM
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Hey Catfish - I tried reaching you a few times & didn't hear back, and then got tangled up in my own issues and tough stuff. So I'm glad you posted. I miss our conversations. Glad to read that you're coming through the other end of the grieving process for your marriage - you know that I know it isn't easy. I wish you well - email me anytime.
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Lots of love Catfish.
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