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Old 11-02-2009, 04:44 PM
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Question establishing new relationships. UPDATE

Do you think it is fair to take the time to establish a new relationship before bringing in any new people?
If so how long do you think is a fair amount of time?

I am feeling insecure, and a little jelous in my new relationship. Its not that he is dating any other woman but the thought of it is bringing up these feelings. I am now wondering if i am asking him not to date any other woman because i want things to be established between us first or because of my own insecurity that he will find someone better?

Is it fair to expect him to not date other people when i have my long term partner and he is so far only dating me?

i don't get this with montianboy becuase with him I am very secure, but it took me a long time to get to that point.

I have the view that you should establish a new relationship before bringing in any new people, i think this is a sensible view but is it just my monogomous upbringinging kicking in and i want to keep that person to myself.

At the moment i am feeling jelous for the first time in a long while. My new relationship has got to be one of the most intense beginnings i have ever had and on an emotional level things have moved quicker than i would usually deem sensible (that does not mean that i would move things quicker in a practical way) just that there are some very intense feelings and a new relationship energy that is a tad overwhelming. However being caught up in all these feelings has brought up other feelings of self worth, insecurity, and also jelousy.

So I am intrested in other peoples opinions on this


Last edited by ladyjools; 11-04-2009 at 09:04 PM. Reason: update
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