Originally Posted by redpepper
no it isn't my opinion actually, maybe you should read the other tagged threads on "asexuality" and do some research. Its actually a bit of a bone of contention amongst the asexual community that people who have lost their sex drive call themselves asexual. I heard from a moderator of the most popular asexual forum on line the information I have given (link is on one of the other threads tagged "asexuality"). I have no opinion one way or another, just passing it on.
Sorry for the hyjack Rootlet, but I had to make sure that this was corrected.
It's not a hijack, RP, this thread is about her wife's asexuality. I read the thread here about asexuality that you started. Of course I can't resist any thread with "sex" in the title.
Just now I looked at the AVEN wiki (Asexual Visibility and Education Network).
It says AVEN's position is:
There is no litmus test to determine if someone is asexual. Asexuality is like any other identity; at its core, it’s just a word that people use to help figure themselves out. If at any point someone finds the word asexual useful to describe themselves, we encourage them to use it for as long as it makes sense to do so.
Sure, some people may never develop sexual feelings for some reason or another, and ID that way their whole lives. However, in this case, Root's wife seems to have become a "born again" asexual person at menopause. And Root mentioned surveying 8 or 10 post menopausal women who became asexual at the change of life, who said they don't miss sex and have no motivation to change it. (We still haven't gotten an answer to whether their partners are as fine with the new asexuality as the women who became that way are.)
Please try and be more open-minded. Forcing the hurting Root to say instead "female sexual dysfunction (FSD)" or "hypoactive sexual desire disorder" is a distraction. Adding more technical/medical words does not help with this situation. There are shades of grey here. Some people that ID as asexual do masturbate, for example, while feeling no sexual attraction for others. Others never feel a need for a sexual release at all, alone or with a partner. Some asexuals will have sex with their sexual partner out of consideration for their feelings, etc.
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Last edited by Magdlyn; 10-20-2011 at 12:50 PM.