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Old 10-09-2011, 01:26 AM
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The problem, was that I had done it in the back seat where Kandy and Boogie couldn't see. It was also while in the back seat of the car....while we were going down the road. Kinda public, yet hidden from Kandy and Boogie's eyes. So to Kandy, it felt like I was trying to hide this. Trying to hide ANYTHING is a foul in our eyes.
Hi, been following the thread and admit I was also confused. If Kandy couldn't see what you did, how did she know you did it?

Do you guys have individual relationships or only date couples together? Just curious.

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Old 10-09-2011, 03:00 AM
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Hi, been following the thread and admit I was also confused. If Kandy couldn't see what you did, how did she know you did it?

Do you guys have individual relationships or only date couples together? Just curious.
1) Kandy was in the front seat with Boogie. Boogie was driving. Tabi-cat was sitting directly behind Kandy. Boogie saw me in the rearview mirror. I took my hand out of Tabi-cat's crotch and put it to my nose. Boogie and Tabi-cat got grosses out by that, and made a big to-do about it. I got embarrassed, and clammed up. More embarassed than I am current;ly typing this to explain it to you strangers.


We typically date couples. However, Kandy has had a bf, and WE have had a GF. I've not had a GF, so to speak, since before I was married. All of the women I tell that I'm married, turn tail and say something along the lines of "Glad it works for you, but it wouldn't work for me". Then I hear very little, if anything, from them ever again.
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I took my hand out of Tabi-cat's crotch and put it to my nose. Boogie and Tabi-cat got grosses out by that, and made a big to-do about it.
Sounds like an entire night of immature over-reactions on everyone's parts.
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Old 10-09-2011, 09:32 AM
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So, this (seemingly very strict) rule is, no sexual touching without the spouse's knowledge. So, if you wanted to touch Tabi's private parts in the car, you'd have had to announce to LT, who was in the front seat with her lover, "I am going to grope Tabi's crotch now," and receive permission before doing it? Thanks for finally clearing that up.

If there was that little snafu early on in the date, perhaps that was Tabi and Boogie's issue that night. Once you all got to the bar and started playing pool, and you were acting all grumpy and playing pool aggressively, and not joining in the mutual flirting, maybe that was why, later, Boogie was less than enthusiastic when it came to bedtime, and unable to shag LT with you in the next bed. Maybe they left the room to discuss how you 2 seemed to have some jealousy and anger management issues...
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Old 10-10-2011, 02:15 AM
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I took my hand out of Tabi-cat's crotch and put it to my nose. Boogie and Tabi-cat got grosses out by that, and made a big to-do about it. I got embarrassed, and clammed up. More embarassed than I am current;ly typing this to explain it to you strangers.
I hope you're joking about being embarrassed! How could anyone be embarrassed about talking about this kind of stuff if they are able to meet up with people they hardly know and have sex with them?
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Old 10-11-2011, 10:07 PM
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YAY! Good day today! Kandy wnet and tested for her national massage therapy exam today and PASSED! WOOT!
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Woot! Tell her congrats from Runic Wolf and I.
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Old 10-12-2011, 01:47 AM
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Gratz, guys. That's awesome.
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Old 10-16-2011, 11:50 PM
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Well...today holds joy..and sadness....

Joy: My football team won today.


Sadness: I have come to the realization, that I am not really fit to be employed anymore. I can not sit for long periods of time, and I can not stand for long periods of time.....I am up and down. The pain sucks.

I have had a nice run of fun destroying this body though. 14 years of martial arts. I wouldn't change it for the world.



I had more to post, but I'm in a depression and not willing to do so at this time. When I'm not so depressed, I'll post again.
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