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Old 10-10-2011, 12:47 AM
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Default I'm the 'other woman'

Hi all,

I've been searching the internet far and wide to find advice and support for those of us who are the "other woman".

I became involved with my guy just over a year ago when he explained that his relationship with his significant other was now void of all physical intimacy. It began several years ago when she struggled with sex, then was further exasperated when she became ill.

It was a little out of my comfort zone but I agreed to give it a try - he was amazing and I wanted to have an open mind.

In that year, we have fallen in love. We express that to each other regularly. Yet it doesn't change his commitment to his partner.

I guess my problem is coping with a new jealousy that has arisen.

I could cope with being involved with him when I believed that their relationship lacked sexual content. But lately, when I'm at their home, she seems more attentive, touching him, and he's enjoying that. And the green monster rears its head and I feel sad.

Reading alot about jealousy, I try to understand why I feel this way. I guess I feel threatened that she will suddenly want that back with him and I'm suddenly unrequired anymore. And maybe part of me hopes that one day he will leave to be with me fulltime, and that seals the deal that he really won't.

I don't know... and I have nobody to talk to about it. My friends and family know a little about our situation, but not enough for me to share these feelings with.

Someone, please help!
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