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Old 10-03-2011, 05:50 PM
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I make my own butter but I don't milk the cows.
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Old 10-04-2011, 09:12 AM
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Neon, I'm sure you do......what's that smell like....I know.....like victory!
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Old 10-04-2011, 10:54 AM
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Default How I knew I had fallen out of love.

I knew that I had fallen out of love...

When I looked at my ex boyfriend, and he looked old. I realized that for almost 20 years, he had not aged (in my eyes) and when it was over... suddenly.. he was old. (we started dating at 30 and 36).

and yes, drugs do funny things to a person's scent. My father was taking a heart medication that made him smell really bad... he was taking two showers a day and wearing cologne to cover the scent (which was a bit like too much garlic the day before)
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Old 10-04-2011, 12:16 PM
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(which was a bit like too much garlic the day before)
I use garlic to take other smells away.
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Old 10-04-2011, 03:30 PM
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sourgirl

your foggy memory is correct ...there was no written declaration of rejection.....her dumb and thoughtless action was the death blow. The rejection for me and the family was in a much more subtle form...and evident in the choices made. Not long ago I told the story of last years anniversary dinner ....people here viewed it as a stupid restaurant choice squabble....then and now I view it as selfishness on her part....and a form of rejection. One weekend she told my daughter that she not be able travel with us to weekend soccer tournament because she had a special project that came up.....cross referencing ...that special project was learning to take successively larger objects up her ass ....to get her anal merit badge or ass cunt merit badge not sure what name it was given ....the bdsm crowd knows how truly "special " this project is. I'm sure my daughter would feel this as rejection. Wait I can hear that conversation. "seriously you stayed home to have objects shoved up you ass seriously... that was more important seriously.....that is so f'ed up seriously...blah blah...seriously. I hear seriously 25-1000 times a day. Seriously.

My point was/is that she didn't really lose everything.....maybe I'm trying to spin it in positive way for her ....but looking back ....her choices and actions tell a story.

I disagree with you disagreeing with me The reason for the thread was I wasn't dead sure that it wasn't me.... in that I changed the way I saw her....and thus my brain processed that smell a different way.


You knowing the chemical make up of bag balm is not at all surprising ...in fact its expected.
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Old 10-04-2011, 04:03 PM
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DH, I have criticized you because of YOU, not because of your wife. I am truly disgusted by the way she lied to your family about the "special project" and it is my personal take on the story that she did in fact intend for that pornographic material with "asswhore" and "cumslut" written on her to be "accidentally" discovered by others - although I believe that it was intended for you, not for your daughter.

My main issue with your attitude as I perceived from your posts was twofold - one, that you seemed to be putting a pricetag on everything that ever happened in your marriage, like a financial balance sheet, and two, that you seemed to be on this forum looking for evidennce in other people's relationships to hold in comparison to what happened in yours. It is ccertainly possible that I perceived these things in error, but I'm just telling you where it came from.

I'm a little curious though - maybe you mentioned this before but I forgot: where on earth did she find this guy, this "boyfriend"? You can tell me it's none of my business because it isn't, but enquiring minds with 144 IQ's want to know these things.
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Old 10-05-2011, 01:30 PM
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Clairegoad,

What you said about the way your brain processed the information was exactly what I was curious about. thanks

Garlic smell would have been better ...might have made me hungry for little country rigatoni .....wait ..I'm always up for Italian food.


Neon,

Not sure how or why on a thread about smells you need to bring up past reasons you feel justified to criticize me. You criticize me for being me ....not because of my wife ....good to know. What in my discourse with you set you off. I thought it was just light joking. I have to think about this I'll get back to you.
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Old 10-05-2011, 03:21 PM
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Neon,

Not sure how or why on a thread about smells you need to bring up past reasons you feel justified to criticize me. You criticize me for being me ....not because of my wife ....good to know. What in my discourse with you set you off. I thought it was just light joking. I have to think about this I'll get back to you.

Don't bother getting back to me. You obviously have moved on and I'm not really interested in your idea of "light joking".
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Old 10-05-2011, 04:08 PM
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Neon
Too late did read your post until I was about to hit submit.

How did your big (144) brain think I was attacking or ...criticizing you in a response to a question asked by Sourgirl. My opinion about how or what constituted rejection within my marriage and family is a sore spot for you how? My comment (to Sourgirl) made no mention of you what so ever...didn't talk about money ...and didn't talk about the comparison with anyone else. I thought people on support forums do naturally draw comparisons or commonality with one another.

Who else do you criticize for them just being them ...or some attitude that you don't agree with. please name names ...

You made a big fucking deal about me having 3 Rules ....instead of boundaries.
Your big brain took issue with me not wanting the bf driving my old convertible....the one that took me and my dad 2 summers to restore.
Hey what are your boundaries in poly and your rules in BDSM ....please list....love to see if they make sense to me ....or if any rub me the wrong way...I'll let you know if they do.
That's right your big brain attitude about money is the right attitude...or your opinion is the right opinion whatever the given topic. The world would be a better place if just all agreed with you big brain types.

You're an advocate for BDSM and kink but then say my attitude about money is the reason for my wife seeking it out. Then who or what is the reason for your participation and what were their attitudes on all the major topics ....again please list. Do you got daddy issues ?....when daddy spanked you did you get turned on? Or maybe daddy wasn't there at all ....another set of problems. Help me help you.

This neighbor women was talking to me about her up coming divorce and was looking back and stated how she had given him her youth ...looks ...figure( I took that to mean child bearing) to be replaced by someone 10-15 yrs younger. Another friend of mine had a cocaine addiction and recently wished he could get back the 150,000 dollars he spent on that little habit ...and the additional money to get clean. What the fuck he had a good time ...he got high ....what a fucking asshole to talk about the money now when he trying to pay for his kid college....what a fucking crybaby loser..... right neon.

The big 144 take on the story might be correct....maybe correct ...but there are 0 facts to support that. Have you had conversations with my wife in some BDSM chat room which would lead you to that conclusion. To clear this up for you ....my home computer is a dell desk type ...set up in the family room so we could monitor the kids....funny right....once powered up the windows system gave each person in the family there own password protected account (for lack of a better word).

After school my daughter usually comes home and knocks out her home work and then does whatever. One day she came home logged on (under her name ) was doing her home work or whatever and then never logged off and then I came home and picked her up for an indoor soccer game. During that time.... while we were out of the house my wife got home and (critical part here) instead of logging out of my daughters page and logging into her password protected account she just used on my daughters( just lazy) ..... then somebody called or dropped bye or both which distract her and she forgot she hadn't logged off the email account or she thought she logged off but didn't do the final procedure ....then we came home and daughter went back on the computer and the nightmare started. So I don't see now you get there.


I don't think there would be any up side for her to want to share those emails and photos or video with me. Way easier to just tell me to fuck off.

I was told the internet was now they connected.

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