for those with closed structure?

[MonoVCPHG]

Originally Posted by redpepper

The future that I want (and I like to ask for what I want and hear what my partners want because otherwise how is anyone to know what they want with me and I with them) is to have a house with four apartments. Here we call that a fourplex with four suites. I would have one, my husband another, Mono another and my boy another (for when he goes on to further education and for us to rent out in the mean time, or if he prefers not to do that). It would have to be private from neighbors. I would like to have a common entrance with a large staircase up the middle of the house.... Maybe a heritage house that has been converted? I also want to have a large kitchen in my suite where we can make meals together and eat together with friends and family or just us. I could visit the men and they could visit me... there would be a garden, a private yard and we could have people stay with us as we wish in our own suites. too much to ask?

For the record I am past the perceverating and am settled into a state of contemplation and acceptance...more like glowing embers than a roaring fire.

The future I see is simply one that I feel is healthy for all of us. I don't like to shape it too much or it seems to dissolve if that makes any sense. I think of the possibilities of our future with a calm peace and a belief that our love is unending.

I know I am moving forward but am unsure of where I'm going..kinda like following a compass on a foggy sea...the direction is there, but the destination is not seen.

The one thing I know is regardless of where I am going I expect it will be with my Lilo and the chosen family that has embraced me

[redpepper]

Just for the record I totally would lose way more if I lost my husband and not Mono. I'm not talking love wise I'm talking everything else. The house, the car, getting legally married etc.the joint aquiring of those items and having our son are how we have chosen to reflect our commitment, how we show our trust in one another and our loyalty to one another as we have defined it.

[violet]

Originally Posted by redpepper

Just for the record I totally would lose way more if I lost my husband and not Mono. I'm not talking love wise I'm talking everything else. The house, the car, getting legally married etc.the joint aquiring of those items and having our son are how we have chosen to reflect our commitment, how we show our trust in one another and our loyalty to one another as we have defined it.

I really admire the relationship you have, redpepper. I really do.

[ladyjools]

reading over this post has given me a lot of insight into how other people are living this lifestyle, its really intresting so thankyou

I don't think that i want to close myself off into a polyfi relationship just now,
but that being said at the moment i am establishing my relationship with R and i want to concentrate on that without too much distraction,

in the mean time i am working things out with M as a friend, with clear bondarys that it does not get physical until we have managed to make Montianboy feel more secure and until he sorts himself out where he is at the moment,

in the future
i would love things to work out with R so that we could all live together as a kind of family,
i would also like M to be a part of my life but im not sure in what capacity that is going to take, all i know is that i have deep feelings for all 3 of these men,

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from the other topic thats come up in this post
having financial ties etc to me does not make the relationship more important, but i can see why some people would, i just wouldn't consider those things when making a desision to stay or not because to me all that matters is if i still love that person, and if we are working as a couple.

Jools