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Old 09-25-2011, 09:24 PM
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Tough call on the question of whether or not to be out. How awkward, though, if people pick up on stuff and think you're being cheated on, and have to figure out whether or not to tell you their suspicions.

A great piece of advice I'll paraphrase from Dan Savage -- people often just don't know how to react. If you break the news in a tone of voice like you're saying "I have cancer" they will take it poorly. If you talk about it like it's an exciting, fun secret, you may get a very different reaction.
Thanks again Anna, I'll take that into consideration.
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Old 09-26-2011, 11:25 PM
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So I have decided to just keep my friend in the dark about my marriage. I hope I've made the right decision but I guess I'll have to see how I feel in the future. Maybe a circumstance in the future will influence me to open up but for now I think it's better to stay covert. I mean one side of me feels down about it and the other feels it is sort of necessary. I thought he would be the only one out of my whole family to know but I don't think so. I know I cannot predict his reaction but just the possibility of him being negative about it makes me cringe.

Anyway Mark will be coming soon to camp with me and Jess in our backyard. Can't wait to eat some s'mores.
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Old 09-27-2011, 12:21 AM
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Anyway Mark will be coming soon to camp with me and Jess in our backyard. Can't wait to eat some s'mores.
So cute!
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Old 09-29-2011, 03:53 AM
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Well I got laid off my job.





Not good.





Damn.
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Old 09-29-2011, 11:54 AM
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Damn, I am so sorry!
Best wishes and fingers crossed for you! This is also an excellent time to be in a kind of relationship where you have the support and care of not only one, but two loved ones!
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Damn, I am so sorry!
Best wishes and fingers crossed for you! This is also an excellent time to be in a kind of relationship where you have the support and care of not only one, but two loved ones!
Yes so very true. Thank you for those words.
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Old 01-13-2012, 06:39 PM
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After almost 4 months of unemployment I have finally landed a job, that pays better than my previous and the benefits are great. Been working for the past 2 days and I get along well with everyone in the office.

My relationship with Jess and Mark is really strong, and feels like it is growing even stronger every day. I no longer feel as if I'm the "little one." The extensive time spent with both of them while I was unemployed helped lift my spirit just as ClosetPoly stated.

I'm also preparing to work on my first novel. I posted a lot of short stories on a few online websites throughout the past 3 years and I'm trying to save up enough $$$ to fund my overseas trip for research in the future. Writing has always been one of my hobbies and now I'm taking it a lot more serious. So geeked up today!
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Old 01-14-2012, 08:28 PM
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I am so glad to hear you're doing good! *happydance*

Keep up the good living, best of luck with work and just....love life! *hugs*
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After almost 4 months of unemployment I have finally landed a job, that pays better than my previous and the benefits are great. Been working for the past 2 days and I get along well with everyone in the office.
Awesome. Congrats!
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Old 01-17-2012, 06:10 AM
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Thanks guys!

Jess keeps asking me have I met any women at my job who's hot.LOL

I have met quite a few but for now I'm tight-lipped.
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