So how exactly does this work with the military?

[Allstar]

Keep it QUIET. I am in the navy and I am thinking about trying poly. I am in with a woman that is poly. She was in a triad. Of course they were in same command and got busted for something stupid. I am telling you now, they come down so quick on stupid shit like this. I have stood witness to many UCMJ for adultery. You can keep it quiet, but you have to be really discreet. Have you dates out of the area and away from any military establishments. This can go wrong and very quickly. Best of luck to you. Also as horrible as it sounds don't talk about your husband at work or vice versa. Try also not wearing wedding bands.

[neegoola]

Originally Posted by Allstar

Keep it QUIET.

yes, sorry, you are right: everyone involved socially has to compromise with something. maybe it's for this concrete and personal reason that i got indignant.

thank you for the lesson.

[Zenferno]

I wouldn't mix with other service members who are at the same installation, and never ever talk about your personal life at work to anyone. Everyone that knows is a potential point of failure.