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Old 09-06-2011, 10:53 AM
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Originally Posted by friday View Post
The schema and the myth and the reason most people think that monogamy is "correct" is because it is dominant, and it is dominant for a reason. Millions of years of evolutionary biology made humans a 'mostly monogamous' species...
Actually this is not true. Monogamy is a late development, which only came along when agriculture developed. If humans had developed into a naturally monogamous species, no one would ever cheat (and half of all people do), no one would ever get divorced, and there would be only monogamous cultures out there. Try reading Sex at Dawn for more information on this.

If monogamy were natural, we wouldnt need social structures, rewards and punishments (legal or religious) to keep people from straying.

...as humans we are lucky to be able to take advantage of trying out other systems that might just elevate us even further as a species.

People believe in monogamy as a cultural tool because its been handed down to us over many many generations of both thought and physical. Its only recently that humans have had the time and resources to farm less and think about things like romance more, and for the last few thousand years its been monotheism which has dominated most of the world, who wanted to reinforce the system that bred the most people to push the darkness of the wild back, and for good reason.
Interesting. Do monotheism and monogamy go hand in hand? No, not even then. Many Muslims and some Jews still practice non-monogamy, ie, polygamy. Current day hunter gatherers (who spend less time getting food than more "advanced" societies) practice non-monogamy.

I am not sure what you mean by darkness of the wild being controlled by monogamy and monotheism. Monogamy developed so that men could control women's fertility and assure the children the women bore were the men's genetic offspring, for economic reasons. Nowdays, people are marrying less. That has been a late 20th and 21st century development. Even people who do marry have a 50% chance of splitting up, and finding new partners is the next step. So, serial monogamy, dating, kids being raised by the woman's extended family, given money by the state when necessary, all these things have to happen because monogamy is not natural and does not work. We wouldnt need porn, strippers, and prostitutes if we were naturally mono. No one would ever cheat on their spouses.

We wouldnt have the very common phenomenon of people being in love with 2 people at once and feeling like they need to choose between them, and suffering because of it.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

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