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Old 09-11-2009, 06:20 PM
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Question A bit lost...where do I begin?

I have been in a wonderful, meaningful, and loving open relationship for two years now. The two of us have been quite happy with the mechanics of our relationship since the beginning, but I am starting to feel that I am missing something. I know that thing is a guy that I can love just as much as I love my girl...but how can I bring it up? She has always been afraid that she would not be enough for me because she is female. Before her I only had relationships with other men. I know I can love a guy without taking away any of the love that I hold for her. I just don't know where or how to start talking about how I feel without hurting her.

Any ideas or advice would be very welcome.
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Old 09-11-2009, 06:32 PM
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I have been in a wonderful, meaningful, and loving open relationship for two years now. The two of us have been quite happy with the mechanics of our relationship since the beginning, but I am starting to feel that I am missing something. I know that thing is a guy that I can love just as much as I love my girl...but how can I bring it up? She has always been afraid that she would not be enough for me because she is female. Before her I only had relationships with other men. I know I can love a guy without taking away any of the love that I hold for her. I just don't know where or how to start talking about how I feel without hurting her.

Any ideas or advice would be very welcome.
Are male or female? What do you mean "open" relationship?
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Old 09-11-2009, 06:34 PM
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Sorry..I just checked out your profile. You are male LOL!
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Old 09-11-2009, 07:19 PM
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Open in that the physical part is not restricted to just us, but the emotional is.
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Old 09-11-2009, 08:24 PM
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Start talking. This site may help. Maybe she is ready too. You could start with asking her if she ever considered the possibility that either of you could fall in love and what she thinks of that.
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Old 09-11-2009, 08:26 PM
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She would automatically think that I was talking about splitting up and get upset. I have always had to word things strategically with her. I don't mind it at all. Good thing I am a writer. Words tend to come easy...most of the time.
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Old 09-11-2009, 08:24 PM
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I have gotten a bit tired of unattached physical relationships with guys. I want to really be with one, like I am with her, but still with her, which is obviously why I am posting on this board lol.
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