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Old 08-31-2009, 12:32 AM
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Hi everyone, I'm Trish. I'm new to the forum and still trying to figure out my place within the Poly lifestyle. I've been working on an introduction but it's so long it's turned into more of a story of my life. Sheesh!

In an attempt to introduce myself in a shorter, more acceptable message length...here goes. I'm 37 and have been married for almost 7 years to Carl. He's the love of my life. We are truly best friends and partners in life, especially after the past year we've been through (my next post will detail out). Anyhow, recently we've met Walker through a decision we made to add a "friend" into our life. The three of us have developed a friendship and it is my hope it will continue to flourish. It's started out well but I know there are still many bridges to cross.

Out of the three of us, I'm the one who has connected and done research on Polyamory. I can't say it's for "us" but I do feel it's right for me. My hubby is very open to the idea of being able to have feelings for and possibly even love others, but I'm unsure how far that would extend. Walker has fallen in love with me. He actually told me that already and in a strange way, I feel the same. I won't deny the fact that it's possible we've jumped the gun by thinking we've fallen in love after only five weeks, but my heart tells me to be open to the possibility that it's the real deal. I've shared the topic of Polyamory to both of my loves and I know that my hubby has read into it and one morning told me he wasn't opposed to the idea but wanted to let things happen naturally with our new friend. He's the smarter and safer one of the two of us. lol I have to follow up with W to see if he has read up on what I've emailed him.

Well, that's me for now. My next post will provide more details, maybe too much for some of you. LOL. I see a lot of support, honesty, and camaraderie within this forum...I look forward to getting to know you all.

Trish
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Old 08-31-2009, 12:40 AM
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Hi, Trish, and welcome!
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Old 08-31-2009, 02:16 AM
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Welcome to the boards.

Heh. After five weeks, I wasn't even certain my wife was really interested in me. It took months before I figured she was serious about the whole thing.
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Old 08-31-2009, 02:45 AM
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I know, seems so soon. And it might be, which is why I had to type it. Outside feedback can be extremely beneficial at times.
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Thanks Fidelia!
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Welcome to the boards.

Personally, I believe it is possible to fall in love quickly, but just don't use it as an excuse to do or take things faster than if you were not in love yet.
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I won't deny the fact that it's possible we've jumped the gun by thinking we've fallen in love after only five weeks, but my heart tells me to be open to the possibility that it's the real deal.
This is a Libra trait no? talking about loving....being concerned with love, love love love....!? heh (teasing my dear Libra mono with this as much as asking you...)

Mono and I fell in love immediately and he told me that within a week or so! I think if you know you know. It's a good thing! And I suspect that you will feel okay to feel that with a lot of work....at least that is what I have come to. Perhaps it makes you feel weird and kind of selfish, scary, like you are taking something away from your husband and that if he knew the depth to which you love he would be very hurt... all okay to feel and to remember that just because you feel love for someone else doesn't mean you love others less. I did a lot of checking in with myself about if I would be okay with just my husband or just Mono and every time came to the conclusion that I couldn't be happy without BOTH of them. So I figured that means that my love for my husband has not gone away. It's just mellowed and different.

I used the analogy when talking to my husband that this kind of love is like a garden. Mono is a new patch of soil that has just been tilled and is ready to seed (he has been seeded now, HA!). My husband is an established garden and has annuals and perennials growing in it. He has trees that bear fruit and flower. His garden needs tending to, weeded, harvested, new seeds planted but it is there for good and just as exciting and valid.
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Possessiveness is also a libra trait unfortunately...I'm wondering how you would feel about your husband finding another woman in the same context?
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