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Old 05-31-2014, 06:05 PM
michael1763 michael1763 is offline
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Default Very late starter.

Unlike most people whose stories I read, I have never been in an official poly relationship. My wife and I were swingers for many years, and occasionally enjoyed separate relationships with others. In the open relationships there was emotional attachment with the other person, but the relationships were relatively short-lived. I am now 64; my wife is 57. She has essentially lost all interest in sex and open relationships. It has now been six months since we had sex, and we are in disconnect mode. Neither of us believes that sex is inseparably intertwined with love, and I am firm in my belief that monogamy is an unnatural state for human beings. In the past I thought polyamory was weird. As I read more about it, I am more inclined to think that earlier in our lives we brushed against polyamorism without realizing it. At 64, I naturally feel that exploring new lifestyles is something left for the young; but on the other hand I feel that I have many vital years ahead of me and I want my life, both physical and emotional to be as full as it can be. I would love to hear from anyone else who came to polyamory late in life. Your thoughts and experiences are of great interest.
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Old 06-01-2014, 01:25 AM
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Greetings michael1763,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I'm a bit younger, 48 to be exact, but you could say I was a late bloomer after several decades of conservative loyalty to the LDS church (and its culture and teachings). It took a long time (and a lot of trauma) to break free of that mold.

I think it's never too late to discover a new aspect of life and love, and polyamory could qualify. Whether you chance upon a new romance, learn a lot (and make some new friends) here on Polyamory.com, or both, I think you'll find it a worthwhile investment.

Glad you could join us and hope you enjoy your stay.
Kevin T., "official greeter"


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