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Old 04-17-2014, 07:07 PM
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Default Writing fictional V for a story

I write fiction, and for some time now I've wanted to write polyamorous characters and now I have a story that they would fit in. I started to think about these people: who are they, what is their relationship like? And I decided I wanted them to have a V relationship, but then for other reasons I felt like the legs of that V should be siblings (brother and sister). He's marreid to hinge (F) and they all live together. So far so good…

But then I started to think, how would people react to this (siblings sharing a partner)? What is your reaction? Why? Is cousins any different? I really wouldn't like to make polyamory seem bad, but I do think the story leads and I follow.

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Old 04-17-2014, 09:25 PM
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There was a thread on here about that, oh a few months ago I guess? Woman married to a guy, I think they started poly, and then she was dating his brother, they were all living together. It blew up at some point, but I'm not sure that's "because" they were siblings as much as the husband just wasn't down with poly.

Ahh. Here it is.

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=58188
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Old 04-17-2014, 09:36 PM
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While I don't think there's anything wrong with that type of situation, I would never personally be interested in being in it. I doubt I would be interesting in reading anything based on it, either, since it's not something I would personally be able to relate to.

The reason I wouldn't be interested is the sexual aspect. Sure, I can intellectually admit that incest is a social construct for the most part (yes, if you're having sex with relatives for the purpose of procreation there are other issues, but safer sex for the fun of it... nothing inherently wrong with it), but even the thought of seeing/overhearing my sibling having sex turns me off. I also wouldn't want my partners' sibling(s) to hear us having sex. It happens on occasion when we're on vacation and staying with family, but on a regular basis, no thank you! When I'm involved with two people, I enjoy group sex if they're both into it. Them being brothers or brother/sister? Wouldn't work for me. Them being involved with my sibling? Wouldn't work for me.

That's my view on it. Take from it what you will.
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Old 04-18-2014, 10:08 AM
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Thanks for you replies More opinions are welcomed.

AlwaysGrowing: In the story the two women mostly live together as the man travels (and always has) a lot. So maybe they've found a way to deal with noises on those occasions he's home.

Thanks SchrodingersCat. I also came across a mention of such situation in another thread today, but I'm not sure if it's different people. So maybe I'll go with it and write the story in a way that makes it clear there's nothing morally (or legally) wrong happening Always up for a challenge \o/ Anyway, I need to spend a couple of more days thinking about these characters, so there's still time to add your two cents.
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Old 04-18-2014, 10:15 AM
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The noises wouldn't be the only issue for me there... If i don't want to hear or picture my sibling having sex, I sure as hell don't wanna think about my PARTNER being the one he/ she is having sex with whether i am in or out of sight and hearing range. Lol but that's not really important.
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Old 04-18-2014, 10:46 PM
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ha, ha, welcome to my life. OK, so we don't live together but my partner is having a relationship with my sister and if it works out, down the track when her teenagers have left the nest, poly co-habitation is something my partner has always wanted to try. It's his ideal, don't know how Sis and I would cope.

I'm a writer too and thinking about writing something poly. Funny though that when I think about poly fiction I always think future sci-fi/fantasy, as if that is really the only place poly has widespread acceptance for readers. Maybe it's less threatening for people presented that way?

Back to your story. Neither my sister or I really identify as poly. Her relationship with my partner developed organically when she left her marriage and came to live close to us. She doesn't want a full time relationship so is happy with what she has with M (our hinge, my partner). If there was a poly/mono scale I think I would be somewhere in the middle and I am pursuing another relationship because I think it is a good way for me to cope with their relationship( I wouldn't be doing it but for M's polyamory). My bf is also mono so goodness knows what kind of letter identification you could place on all that. Oh I know it would look like a big tick, a v, elongated on one end

At present Sis and I haven't discussed her relationship with M. We are on good terms but I think it feels quite awkward for both of us. Neither of us wants to hurt the other or M so we are very careful about out actions. If you need any material questions answered feel free, it is quite an interesting dynamic.

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