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Old 03-22-2014, 12:27 AM
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I've been thinking about being open/poly for years, but just talked to hubby about it this weekend. We've been married for 6 years, together 7. Really not sure if this is for us or not, that's why I joined the forum. Looking to meet open minded people and get some useful tips on how to ease into the lifestyle. Hubby and I both think if we can get it to work, it would really make us both happier. Can't wait to "meet" you all. Ashley
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Old 03-22-2014, 05:47 PM
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Hi Ashley. Welcome to the board!
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Old 03-22-2014, 05:51 PM
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Hi Ashley. Welcome to the board!

Magdlyn, Thanks so much btw. I LOVE the line there's no lying in polyamory. I've already encountered individuals online that don't seem to understand the concept that polyamory doesn't mean trying to cheat on my husband.

Can't wait to get to know everyone.
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Old 03-23-2014, 01:51 AM
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Greetings Ashley,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I've had a look at your posts here and there so far (and posted in one of them) and it looks like you and your husband are very sincere about wanting to give poly a try and do the job right, while you have some concerns about past situations in which you have been hurt and discovered some internal insecurities as well.

I don't see anything overwhelming that can't be overcome, you just have to take things in little steps at a time and not try to eat the whole elephant at once. For instance, I'd suggest not even trying to practice any poly living until you've taken some time to dig in and explore this site; there is so much collective wisdom and experience you can learn from. Find out what kind of obstacles others have faced, what did and didn't work. To that end, the Poly Relationships Corner and Life stories and blogs board can be particularly useful. But the point is, take your time and bask in the learning process before attempting your first dive off the high dive at the deep end. Make sure you know how to swim and that you have a reasonable comfort level with things.

Whenever I post on a thread, I always start following that thread so you can come to me with questions/concerns anytime you need to, and you'll find that lots of other people here will be there to help you too. Just let us know what would help the most, and feel free to share your thoughts whatever they may be.

Anyway, just wanted to let you know I was glad to meet you and read your initial posts.

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Kevin T., "official greeter"

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Old 03-23-2014, 02:53 AM
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kevin,
thanks so much for the warm reply. Finding caring individuals like you has really been helpufl so far in the process. Growing up in a society of monogamy, it's hired to think things through other than how you are "told" to wire them. I tend to jump off the deep end, so the advice about not doing that is well appreciated.

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Old 03-23-2014, 04:45 AM
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