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Old 02-19-2011, 02:39 AM
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Question Need help explaining Sex with one is not better than the other

Hello everyone,

So my BF and I have been dating for five years now, we have always had more flexible boundaries but we completely opened our relationship 6 mounts ago. My BF has seen other girls but is not currently. I have also see girls in the past but recently I have started seeing a man for the first time. We are really to move our relationship to the next level, But my BF is uncomfortable with this. He believes my new partner will perform better sexually than him, and that I will rather have sex with my new partner.

How do I explain to him that neither one will be better than the other one and that I will still want to have sex with him?

Thank you for your help, Vera
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Old 02-19-2011, 02:50 AM
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Don't tell, show. he-he-he....
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Old 02-19-2011, 03:34 AM
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You can say it until you are blue-until he decides to let go of his fear of being "not good enough" he won't believe you.

I've been struggling with that issue for years.

Just keep loving him, keep making love to him and reminding him that he's still special to you.
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Old 02-19-2011, 04:22 AM
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honestly, he needs to have confidence in his own prowess. You can talk all you want, but he may never understand.

Lack of self-confidence needs to be fixed by self...
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Old 02-19-2011, 06:24 AM
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Ya, I guess I knew all of that Its just frustrating
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Old 02-19-2011, 07:17 AM
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Looks like he is rearing up the Jealousy Bug.

Chances are it is all because it is a Male involved and his brain is on overload.


That will be a hard thing to break without a LOT of love and trust.


He has to know that whatever happens, you are "going home with him" at the end of the day.


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Old 02-21-2011, 02:06 AM
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How do I explain to him that neither one will be better than the other one and that I will still want to have sex with him?
I really, really enjoy listening to the Smokin' Joe Kubeck Band. That in no way diminishes my enjoyment of Counting Crows.
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