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Old 02-09-2014, 05:51 AM
RockTheGeekness RockTheGeekness is offline
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Default Poly with kids? How much do you explain?

Title pretty much sums up my question. How much, or what, do you tell your children?

Along the same line, how do you tell your immediate family (siblings and parents), or do you?
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Old 02-09-2014, 06:11 AM
Maleficent Maleficent is offline
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All our kids know. Seven kids aged 16 - 8.

The older kids had more questions and we were pretty honest with the answers. They are respectful kids and didn't want many details. With the younger ones we just told them that the three adults love each other and want us to all be a family. That was enough. So long as their needs are being met and there is a happy home they all have adjusted quite well.
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Old 02-09-2014, 07:16 AM
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Ours range from 6-22. Its been 4 years and we told all of them that we believe you can love more than one person at a time. Then answered questions honestly. Bf already had lived with us for 6 years at that point. It was a simple concept for all of the kids.
Parents and siblings we were pretty point blanks with as well as friends. Co workers took about a year for the guys to get to "totally out".
"Love As Thou Wilt"
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Old 02-09-2014, 08:23 AM
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Dont tell my son about my adult relationships, don't have partners around him much and if they are no PDA. Some family know i no longer do monogamy.
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Old 02-09-2014, 01:00 PM
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I explained that I romantically loved two men at the same time. At a level they could understand for their age. I did not bring anyone in their life that wasn't staying around. Murf didn't meet them until we had been dating 6 months.

Family I was just honest with.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 50/50 split of time between my two husbands.
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Old 02-09-2014, 02:12 PM
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Have you done a search of the forums? This is a common topic. You may want to start here:

Children and Polyamory: Merged Threads, General Discussion
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