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Old 02-08-2014, 04:40 AM
Kimk010514 Kimk010514 is offline
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Ok here is a intro on my life I'm a single mother going thru a divorce and poly is very new to me but I have been interested in seeing what poly was and since Jan of this year I started to be the unicorn to a married couple they have been together for 11 yrs but been married almost 4 yrs... I feel like I'm coming in between their marriage but they say I ain't .. My gf I'll call her E and my bf and her husband I'll call him P.. E works first shift and P works third shift so the morning before P goes to bed I sit nod talk to him and at might while P is at work I spend time with E. E thinks that me and P spend more time together then her and P does but what she fails to realize me and P really dint spend that much time together.... Today me and P were talking and he told me that till we all get all the issues worked out between us that he was not going to have intercourse with either of us but ended up having sex with E, no I'm not mad or upset that they had sex I'm more upset that he lied to me, all he had to tell me was that he didn't want to have sex with me that he just wanted to have sex with E but no he lied to me and told me that he wasn't going to have sex with either of us yes I understand that's his wife but don't tell me one thing and do another maybe I'm wrong or maybe I ain't. When they fight they push me away when they both ignore me.... I just wish things could get better for us I love them and their kids dearly and they love me and my son dearly... Some advice would be apprecaited
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Old 02-08-2014, 04:53 AM
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This is a really good site to help you understand poly:

http://www.morethantwo.com/

All three of you need to understand that unicorns do NOT exist! Look it up on line at the Urban dictionary site as well as the term Metamour, it sounds like you are a secondary in a poly/mono relationship so read about it at more than two, so I hope this helps, good luck
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Old 02-08-2014, 04:56 AM
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Idk what to do I love them both
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Old 02-08-2014, 05:02 AM
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Sounds like this is very hard for all three of you so maybe look at the fact that he had sex with E after he said NO MORE SEX as him being very confused and changing his mind rather to him lying to you, ploy relationship are extremely difficult for me at least so far so please at least try doing what I started doing today by doing a little reading up, bit by bit at more than two.
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Old 02-08-2014, 05:07 AM
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I understand E is his wife but that don't mean that he had to tell me one thing and do another I'm going thru a divorce with a guy that cheated and lied to me from the time my son was 2 months old till he was 4 months old and finally came clean to me about everything a couple days ago so I'm going thru that it just sucks that I'm going thru this and dating a married couple
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Old 02-08-2014, 05:11 AM
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I understand E is his wife but that don't mean that he had to tell me one thing and do another I'm going thru a divorce with a guy that cheated and lied to me from the time my son was 2 months old till he was 4 months old and finally came clean to me about everything a couple days ago so I'm going thru that it just sucks that I'm going thru this and dating a married couple
People say thing and do another a lot including us, part of being poly is being open and communicating.
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