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Old 02-07-2014, 06:59 PM
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Hello, I am very much in love with my gf who has a gf but when we all first met we would jump into bed together but as of now that will never happen again, do you think we have any chance of living the rest of our lives as poly?
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:08 PM
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Does it bother any of you that it will never happen again?

If not, than there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to have a happy, healthy Poly relationship, Poly doesn't equal having to sleep together all the time.
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:18 PM
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It bothers me a lot and I'm not sure if it bothers them at all the thing is my gf gets jealous if I touch her gf and her gf has a husband in prison who gets out in the Summer so she doesn't want 3sum but twice a month the three of us end up spending the night in a 2 bedroom house and that needs to be figured out please
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:24 PM
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Well if she doesn't want to sleep with you and they are not bothered, than...get over it.

If you have two bedrooms can't they sleep in the spare (I am assuming there is a spare and that is why you mentioned it)? The only person who can scupper this relationship is you (and maybe the boyfriend when he gets out of prison).
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:32 PM
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I know I need to get over it but it is not easy! They do sleep in the other room which is good but I need to work on my jealousy, I know it sounds crazy and I'm sure I am but its seems almost like 3sum was a woman who left me and I feel heartbroken, also my gf has DEMANDED that I find second gf but I know she'd get super jealous if she found out I did, so am I doomed?
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:46 PM
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First of all that demand is just stupid, where are you going to pick up a girlfriend from? The girlfriend Market?

This could have all been prevented by your metamour having firm boundaries in the first place, pity she did not think of her boyfriend before sleeping with you! Does he even know about it or was she cheating on him?

Either way, getting a girlfriend on your own might help distract you from your jealousy, but that is just a deflection, you really need to work on this yourself, realise that you don't own your girlfriend and decide whether you can live with a poly person or whether you would prefer a monogamous relationship with someone else.

Either way, this is about you, not them ok?

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